My bf and i are legally married a week and told our families we were engaged not to disappoint them. And we planned on just having a wedding cermony where both families could come and then being none the wiser. But i just found out at a regular check up that i am almost 2 months pregnant?Walking down the asle pregnant?good idea or bad he wants to plan a wedding for no later that december!Does the catholic church allow pregnant woman to get married pregnant?
2006-09-28 10:27:50 · 14 answers · asked by kelly v 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The marriage in vegas as an accident and i am still in my last year of college.
2006-09-28 10:34:10 · update #1
We thought we could just take the marriage in vegas as an engagement and then have a ceremony 6 months later.
2006-09-28 10:36:06 · update #2
I think you guys might have to just tell your parents. Otherwise theyre going to realize you're pregnant and having a baby and think its illegitimate, when its not entirely. You married because of love, but found out you were pregnant.
So its not like you got married because you were pregnant.
And besides that, it was more honerable in your situation to go ahead and get married instead of just continue living together.
You shoud just be honest. Tell your parents you couldnt wait until the wedding, but were afraid of disapointing everyone.
As far as the church... I know they would let you if it was a renewing of the vows. Theyre going to know that anyway when the preist finds out theres no certificate to sign.
2006-09-28 10:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your marriage and on your pregnancy!
However, I don't understand why you want to have a wedding when you are already married? That seems deceptive and strange to me.
Maybe you could plan a small reception in the next month or two for close family to celebrate what's already happened. Also I wonder if it would be legal for the Catholic church to legally marry you if you ar e already married? Be sure to tell them you are already married. They can still marry you, though. They won't mind if you are pregnant, although you may get a stern sermon from the priest, depending on the priest.
2006-09-28 17:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by EmLa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I understand your reasoning, my brother did the same thing...family is important and trying to avoid the disappointment is a natural thing to want to do. As for the Catholic church "allowing" you to get married while pregnant, I think they would highly recommend it since in their eyes, you are living in sin. Just relax and plan your wedding...this should be a VERY happy time in your life!
Good LUCK!!!
2006-09-28 17:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Baby♥Girl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you couldn't wait until a church wedding and went and did a quick civil ceremony ... and good thing you did because congrats are in order. If you want your church wedding before the baby then go ahead and plan it. The catholic church is something i am not familiar with so i can't answer that part... check with the local priest. if both of you are active members it might be something workable.
2006-09-28 17:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by kel_tg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure about the Catholic church and all but you possibly won't be showing in December....I didn't show til well after 6 months with my first child...if really concerned wear an Empire waist dress...would be hard to tell if you are pregnant or just a flowing dress......
2006-09-28 17:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by shana j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just come clean. It is more "honorable" to admit you are already married and got pregnant than for them to think you are marrying because you are pregnant. It's just never a good idea to lie. And what's the point? You did nothing wrong!
Since you are already married, why don't you just have a reception celebrating your marriage?
2006-09-28 17:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by JaneDivided 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to call him your "bf" anymore...he's your husband (unless you mean best friend!). A young woman mature enough to get married should be mature enough to tell her family the truth. And be mature enough to plan whatever type of ceremony will make you and your husband happy. You don't need to do the aisle thing if that is uncomfortable for you. Make it what you both want. A casual reception is one idea.
2006-09-28 17:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless your parents cannot count up till 9 you will have some minor issues..but that will come later.... now...just keep quiet and enjoy the family wedding..then the rest will sort it self out later...
2006-09-28 17:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by John F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with having a church ceremony to follow up the quick one you already had. I'd be honest about it though. There's really no shame in it.
2006-09-28 17:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a bad idea as long as ur comfortable doing it. Yes the catholic church allows that.
2006-09-28 17:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by scartissue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋