2006-09-28 10:22:15 · 29 answers · asked by KayAlley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call his bluff.
If its not a bluff....you'll be better off.
No way you can lose.
2006-09-28 10:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Carl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would respond in a serious manner (don't yell back or act angry), and say, "if you are REALLY wanting a divorce, then let us both go talk to a lawyer and take care of it. I'm tired of hearing you dangle the world 'divorce' each time there is a conflict, and since you seem to bring this up, you are wanting one. Let's discuss this and see what we should do.")
He may be testing the water to see how you would react, and that he may really be considering a divorce. If that's the case, why not be productive and move on and discuss it?
If he's bluffing, then seeing you pick up the phone to call a lawyer (and seeing you act serious) should scare him enough to not say it again unless he really means it.
2006-09-28 10:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Strawberry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him, when you are not having a disagreement and discuss your relationship. Let him know that you are in for the long haul and that you and him may some time not see eye to eye, but that doesn't mean that divorce is always the instant answer. Tell him it is hurtful and that you have more faith in your marriage than to just walk away. Make a pact to Agree to Disagree.
2006-09-28 10:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by know-it-all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Familiar! It sounds like he really does want a divorce, but he doesn't want to hurt you. Thats why he waits for an argument, when your mad too, thinking that if your mad at him, you will agree and let him go. So if you guys end up talking things out, he can't ask for the divorce then. He wants you to agree to a divorce. So, next time he says that, say "Ok" Tell him you give up, your tired of him asking for a divorce, if thats what he really wants, you'll give it to him. And see what he says....
2006-09-28 10:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Belle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would set up a time and have a heart to heart talk with him about how this hurts you and ask him if he is serious about getting a divorce. Sometimes it is hard for people to express themselves when they get frustrated and they take an easy way out by making these type of comments. Sometimes it is what they really feel deep down inside. Best wishes!
2006-09-28 10:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by lgw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a Divorce
2006-09-28 10:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by lkjjkgjfj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband threw the word at me twice. I took him up on it and filed the papers. I don't have a lot of patience with threats.
Now he's whining. He's decided it was all a mistake. But wow! I really like being out of the arguments and threats. I'm happier now, than when I was married. I don't have to put up with a little boy in a man's body.
2006-09-29 04:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by grandma's spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then I would tell him to go file for a divorce i want everything including full custody of the kids plus the dog if there is one and child support payments and alimony. That always shuts the bastard up.
2006-09-28 10:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deep down inside, he really don't like the way the marriage is. talk to him. I tell that to my husaband all the time. "I want a divorce, or if we got a divorce, would you sign the papers" I hate my marriage. But that's my situation. Good luck with yours
2006-09-28 13:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what the REAL reason is as to why he always says this. I'm assuming he's a bit controlling and doesn't take kindly to you asserting yourself, or letting him know how it is. Maybe he just wants you to make to first move so he doesn't look like the "bad guy." Good Luck!!!
2006-09-28 10:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by spen21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time, tell him to go for it! It's kinda like the cry wolf thing.
I believe it's a sign of insecurity. He needs to acquire some backbone and maturity. On 2nd thought , those words may be too strong for him to handle.
2006-09-28 10:27:01 · answer #11 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋