ok i don't know if this is true but its going all around the school that this girl in a couple of my classes, she was raped last night. i'm not sure if its true but what people are saying is that there was this 20 year old guy at a school football game last night and he was drunk and i don't know what the girl was thinking going with him but she was raped, or at least thats what everyone is saying. she is sortof one of my friends not my best friend but i care about her and i don't want her to get hurt. she was crying a lot today and she was just like "leave me alone" to everyone. and the news even came to the school today because of it. i am really worried about her and i'm not completely sure what happened and i don't want to ask her because i know she won't tell me about it she will only tell her best friend. how can i help her get through this? how can i help her to make sure it won't happen again?
don't be mean to me please and thank you for answering!
2006-09-28 10:03:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is really sad that your friend decided to put herself in that sort of position. Really, the best way to help her is to be a friend. Be there for her, and be a shoulder to cry on. Don't try and press for answers, just let time do it's job.
2006-09-28 10:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by tubachick5490 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. tough situation. if the rumors are true, your friend is probably feeling very very sensitive about the issue. i would recommend counseling of some sort, maybe through a school guidance counselor. also, i would recommend that she report this guy to the police. if the rumors are not true, however, try to do everything you can to make sure people know they are false. rumors are a nasty thing, but i hope you can work something out and help your friend. good luck!
2006-09-28 17:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by truth seeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see your dillema, but get a grip. Just tell her you're there for her, give her your number, that sort of thing. Make her a card and get a lot of her friends to sign it and put their phone numbers on it, but keep it a secret until you get someone (preferrably her best friend) to give it to her. Try to cheer her up, but don't remind her of it, even if it isn't true, it could be just a nasty rumor. Who knows? But you need to be strong for her, not just trying to look good in her eyes. Be nice to her, and offer to let her come to your house, or joke with her, or maybe try to help her get together with her crush. Eventually, she'll relax a little but I can't say she'll forget it because she probably won't.
2006-09-28 17:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by THE ODD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the worse thing that can happen to a girl!!! You can't do anything, just try to be her friend! You CAN'T ask her anything about that if she don't tell you! Everything is up to her, she should turn that guy to the police! His place is in jail! I don't know are you a good friend to her?If you are, call her to come and visit you, and try to talk to her, advice her to go to the police and send that bustard to prison! Tell her what you heard at school, and ask her is that true? Try to comfort her..... somehow :/
2006-09-28 17:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she was raped first thing first complain to the police officers and get the culprit in behind bars.........thats the biggest help u can do after all u dont knwo who else u guys may be saving..
and yes emotionally the girls needs u...talk to her try building the trust and show her that u wont hurt her by knowing the truth...talk to her parents and if necessary talk to her great friends...u two can team up and help her get out of this truama......all the best
2006-09-28 17:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet would be to stay out of the way for at least some time till she is ready to talk to you.
2006-09-28 17:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to always have friends with her when she goes out, and not to go with drunk older guys. tell her that we all make mistakes, and all she can do is learn from this and make wiser choices is in the future.
2006-09-28 17:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest giving her some space for now, but in awhile when it passes over, treat her no differently because no one wants sympathy over something they want to forget. Just let her know your there for her anytime.
2006-09-28 17:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend and if or when she opens up to you then try and help but there isn't much you really can do for her except just be there for her.
2006-09-28 17:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by wizardalli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her best friend if she knows a way you can help
2006-09-28 17:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by sparkles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋