Telling personal information to your children.....?

Question

Do any of you think it is your childrens business to know your personal information? What I mean by this is having a conversation with your kids and telling them you are depressed, how much you get paid on your job, stuff about your relationship or even telling the business of the person you are in a relationship with. People have to realise that they are talking to their kids and not their friends and I personally don't think it is right. That's why the majority of kids today think they are grown because they know grown peoples business and it is the parents fault that does this when the child acts this way.

This comment is to leikevy: My comment was that is way kids act grown because they know grown peoples business, I didn't say that was the only reason that kids act grown.

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Answer 1

I agree with you.

I know a lot of people who are single parents and in a way they treat their child like their buddy, not their child. It's like an "insta-friend."

I think times are just very different - which is life. The news is graphic, the paper is graphic, kids know a lot more then children growing up 15 years ago.

But I don't agree with parents telling their children everything. I think it's good to explain things at the level to which a child is.

Answer 2

"that is why the majority of kids today think they are grown because they know grown peoples business"

I dont think that is the only factor nor is the main reason they act grown up. Should they not read newspapers because grown ups do? I think kids are more likely to prove they are adults by what they do (for example, drinking) rather than take the accomplishments of what their parents did and brag about it.

However, I do agree when you talk to your kid about your personal feelings or your feelings about someone else is just a bad idea because you cant expect them to help you the way another adult can. They should be told something if it affects them directly, (Divorce betweeen the parents for instance).

Answer 3

I don't think children should be burdened with adult issues. They can't do anything about them, so dumping problems on them is wrong. They are children, not mini-adults.
Why would anyone put so much stress on their child by sharing their emotional problems or financial issues??? It's why so many kids are confused, on anti-depressants, having sex at age 13, and have no idea what to do with their lives.

I HATE it when I hear people say "My kid inspires me"-- it's so wrong- the ADULT should be a role model and inspire the child.

Answer 4

You have a very good point. At the same time I think it's important for children to understand their parents lives. Some parents DO give their children WAY to much info and that just causes more stress for the children. I should know, my mother did it to me.

Answer 5

I agree with your personal opinion, let kids be kids. The reality's of life will catch up with them to soon anyway. If a child has no childhood because of worries about their parents problems their whole life will be messed up.

Answer 6

I think sometimes they deserve to know things like where you are going and stuff like that, but there's other things that you don't want to tell them, like how you're behind with the bills or if you are depressed as you stated. That might get your kids a tad bit worried, and no kids wants to worry about if you and your mom are going to get evicted.

Answer 7

I think it's ok to let them know about what your financial status is so they can understand why things are the way they are. Your emotional status is a different story, your children shouldn't have to be burdened with such info. Try a family member, friend or therapist.

Answer 8

Well it depends how old your kids are and if you think they will understand what is going on.I don't think you need to tell them how much you get paid at work.Some of it you can probely keep it to your self but other things you can tell them.Sometimes you should maybe say what your thinking.

Answer 9

Its good to get your kids in on the problems. Its not good to make your kids feel like things are futile and impossible. Teaching them that problems can be overcome as life lessons is key to building their growth.

Answer 10

No. You should be dealing with issues that only pertain to the children. They are only young once and if it is not life altering then they not need to have knowledge of this info. Just my input.