Why on earth do men have a problme with giving compliments and showing their feelings?

Question

i am not applying this to all men as i know some men are truely able to do this. but seriously, is it some kind of thing to do with the genetics or are they just so unemotional that they can't give a compliment?

Answer 1

I honestly don't understand it either. But I do belive it's a macho ego thing. My boyfriend drops a compliment about once every six months and this is after the lack of has almost ruined our relationship. And he knows this. It's always after a fight and I'm damn near out the door. Meanwhile I compliment him about once a day. And it doesn't matter to me how he looks when I give it to him it's always the truth. As to the whole thing about saving them up so they wont get cheapened, Bull. Have fun being alone.
In my eyes a real man knows how to treat a woman and doesn't care what anyone, but her, thinks about him. And the sad thing is this is a learned behaviour that once you get the girl you don't have to do any of the work to keep the relationship going. It all falls on her. And it sucks.

Answer 2

I give compliments all the time and love the reaction/responses I get from women. They seem genuinely appreciative of me doing so. Do you know any boys and men personally? If so, ask some of them what their specific reasons are. We all do things for different reason, you know? I'm sure you have some "things about you" that some men can't understand. Don't take it personally, okay?

By the way, that was a good question...(that was your compliment from me) Now, what do I get?

Answer 3

Because they are socialized from birth to conform to society's definition of "manly behavior." When a boy is really young he learns that "only sissies cry," and when they get hurt to "take it like a man." If a boy or man doesn't act strong or shows any kind of emotion he is called a "wimp" or a "p*ssy."

Girls, on the other hand can cry, hug, and be as emotional as they want. In fact women who don't are often thought of as unfeeling or "cold." Girls commiserate with one another and talk out their problems. Boys are taught to hold it in and that showing any sign of emotion is a sign of weakness.

Women promote that because they keep proving over and over again that they want "strong" men who fit that mold of the guy who can hold it together if they (women) fall apart. Then these same women want a man who can be sensitive and can share his emotions with them. If women were truthful with themselves they know they want to feel protected and taken care of by a man who is "strong."

I think boys and men have a difficult time trying to balance this and figure out when to be sensitive and when to be strong, so they opt for the "strong" side, and with the way society is, I can't say that I blame them.

Answer 4

My case is that I don't want to cheapen a good compliment by dropping them every time a girl would like one. It just makes them that much special when they do come out at the perfect time.

Answer 5

Because most men have grown up believing that showing emotion is "gay." They will be all stoic and silent about their feelings because they're afraid of being made fun of by other men if they say something. They don't want to be made to feel as if they're not masculine, and being emotionally open is not considered masculine among many men.

Answer 6

Men are like this. They are afraid of their own feelings.
You just help them with a bit ... understanding....

But it is a very hard job to love a man. The worst job in
the world. But never forget the 11th commitment:
"Thou shalt never give up!!!"

Answer 7

Not all men do, but what bugs me is when you give them a compliment instead of saying thank you they say I Know...

Answer 8

I guess it goes against their macho image that they always try to portray.

Answer 9

my crush should compliment me...

Answer 10

some dont.