I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we moved in together but his dad doesn't know. It is his house. My boyfriend wont stand up to his dad and tell him he wants to be with me and that I am living there. His dad lives in the 1930 and he is bitter towards women. He hates me and told me that. How do I have a relationship with him when I live with Him and in essence with his dad? We talk about the future but I can barely handle whats going on at hand. What do I do?
2006-09-28 09:26:46 · 11 answers · asked by Jewels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get out of the house and get your own place, you both need peace and no interference. Its your life, not his father's. At else your boy-friend is with you not too control by his father, he's not that weak. Make sure you talk about your future and feelings together and to keep strong and not give up on you and each other, especially if he loves you. Good luck, I hope he's a fighter.
2006-09-28 09:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by olga c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be very stressful for you being in a house where you know you're not wanted, and if it his dad's house and his dad dislikes you, then you know you shouldn't really be there, should you? It sounds like things are a lot more complicated than they should be.
It doesn't say much for your boyfriend that he can't deal with either his dad or your situation - he needs to step up and decide where his loyalties lie, cos he's messing up in both camps at the moment.
I'd get out of that house if I were you - if your boyfriend can sort things out with his dad, and you and his dad can sort out your differences, then you can move back in with your head held high. Otherwise, your boyfriend should realise he's putting you in an impossible position, and move out with you.
2006-09-28 09:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by RM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THAT HOUSE! MOVE OR SOMETHING. If your relationship is important to the both of you, then you would both want to be where people respect your relationship. On the other hand, if you plan on being with this guy, can you really handle his Father for the rest of his life? Think about that while you are packing your bags!
2006-09-28 09:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by mansyroot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that him not being willing to tell his dad about you is hurtful. It makes it seem almost like he doesn't care enough to stand up for you. But also, if he's completely adamant against telling his dad, cut it off. He's not worth your time and effort if he's not going to love you enough. He should be proud to say that he's your man! But maybe you are moving a little fast...try slowing things down a bit. His dad will come to his senses eventually.
2006-09-28 09:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jane S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly, there's nothing for you to do. My fiancee's dad's side of the family ALL hate me. His brothers included...and there's nothing I can do about it. You try and try, but in the end, it's not in your hands. Good luck. Just keep doing what you're doing w/your boyfriend and don't let his dad get in the way.
2006-09-28 09:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend won't stand up to his father - is this relationship worth pursuing? If I understand you correctly, the house belongs to your boyfriend's father. If that is the case, the father can have you evicted. This will be more of a problem for you than for your boyfriend who will probably just do at his father tells him to.
2006-09-28 09:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dad isn't the issue its your boyfriend if he wont stand up to is dad now he never will dump him
2006-09-28 09:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be honest with his dad or you can never really be happy. I had a friend in a similar situation and she wasnt allowed to answer the phone in the flat in case it was his family and when they visited she had to hide all her stuff. It nearly split them up, but he decided to be upfront with his family and although they didnt like it it made everything so much easier.
2006-09-28 09:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by jean m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing to do is move out and get yourselves an apt.
2006-09-28 09:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this sounds like an episode of "King of the Hill"!
2006-09-28 09:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by A True Gentleman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋