I have been married for 7 years. Throughout the last seven years my wife and I have both evolved. Through this evolution I have noticed that what she finds both emotionally and sexually stimulating has evolved as well. Other than love, what is the one thing that doesn't change when it comes to emotional/ sexual stimulation for women?
2006-09-28 09:26:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Undying commitment for one another!
2006-09-28 09:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on 7 years!
To tell you the truth, I have yet to find ANYTHING that doesn't change when it comes to what women find stimulating.
My personal opinion is everything has to evolve. Everything MUST change. It's quite a chore to continuously find new and exciting things for each other.
Things can get racier as time goes on, because you feel "safe" with each other, and that creates an environment of trust.
My only suggestion is do NOT try anything that involved an additional person - (swinging, swapping, trios, etc.) I have never seen a marriage survive that more than a few years. It ALWAYS gets weird. I've seen marriages survive cheating, but never mutually consensual sex with other partners.
Try role playing - The stranger one is fun - arrange to meet up at a distant resort somewhere where you two don't go. Arrange in advance to meet at the bar or casino or wherever and pretend you don't know each other. Then play out the fantasy of meeting again under different circumstances, and well - take it from there. It's a blast, you get to flirt and "pick up" on each other all over again.
2006-09-28 16:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jerry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really, we all change. There are books out on things like the languages of love and another whose name simply isn't coming to me at the moment about stages of marriage. We all change as our lives change. We age, we get familiar, we cope with various issues.
If you really had to get inside your house in a hurry, say it was on fire or someone was screaming, and it was locked and you realized you didn't have your keys. You might stand and try the door knob, maybe yell at someone inside to open up, but you wouldn't do that for very long, now would you? You might try forcing the door, by lunging at it to hit it with your shoulder or back, but you would just keep doing that now, would you? You might try kicking it, again after several tries of that you would move on to something else. You would try other doors or windows or look for tools, even a good rock--but probably wouldn't settle on any one thing for forever.
Life is like that. We adapt and adopt new ways. One of the problems that sometimes happens is she is trying other windows and doors and you are still doing the running bounce off the front door.
2006-09-28 16:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the woman.....but one thing is the fact that you will always love her no matter what....the fact that you will continually try to do new things for her to make her happy!! Talk to her about what has changed and you never know things might just get better than they were 6 years ago!! You might be able to bring back the newly wed feeling and that can be awesome!! Just remember to sleep at some point during the night!
2006-09-28 16:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Misty K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good massage, taking the time to touch, rub, stimulate, whether it's the feet, the legs, back, neck and shoulders or even massaging someones hands. it's gentle and firm, relaxing and stimulating, silent communication. the need for that touch and closeness doesn't go away. it evokes emotions and desire at the same time.
the voice of experience
2006-09-28 16:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by gelfin1028 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things change. That's life.
You can't expect things to stay the same forever.
Just keep evolving together.
Sounds like you're doing a great job.
2006-09-28 16:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stimulation of the "seat of woman's delight" to orgasm. The female clitoris has the same tissue that forms the penis. So be kind, pay it the required attention it ALWAYS needs.
2006-09-28 16:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't lump emotional and sexual together to begin with. sexual will always change. and the one constant is that women need emotional support. Be nice.
2006-09-28 17:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/gran2gran! Going downtown equals bliss & a happy woman! :-)
2006-09-28 16:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is so much better when you are in love...and especially for women-its more intense!!
2006-09-28 16:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by gingergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋