Let's say you are married and have a terrific sex filled, love filled relationship. You are always cudling your wife and shower her with kisses. Then comes this girl 10 years younger than you who was a friend of a friend. She talks to you on the phone and asks you for relationship advice. She then procedes to call you more, come to your work to meet you. She tells you she likes older men, says she really likes kids, ( you have 4) is always asking you about your relationship with your wife and if you are happy.
You are honest with your wife and tell her that she called when your wife asks you if you have heard from her. Your wife asks you to put a stop to talking to her, because your wife 'see's that she wants more than just friendly advice. You kinda like the attention from this young girl... what would you do? Would you think this girl is obviously picking up on you? Or using you as a friend, since she seems to like older men. What would you tell your wife?
2006-09-28 09:22:10 · 16 answers · asked by llbm3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a dangerous, DANGEROUS line you are trying to walk. The easiest way to avoid hitting the nail is to not pick up the hammer. The easiest way to avoid getting involved in an extra-marital flirtation/affair is to avoid all intimate/alone time with any woman besides your wife. You have done WELL so far to be honest. Your wife has made a reasonable request. Do not throw away a good marriage for a "friendship" or even a "hook up" with a woman who will not know you and love you like your wife does.
2006-09-28 09:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by stillstanding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, any man who says he wouldn't be flattered by this is lying. However, I believe that I would be completely honest with my wife about the whole situation. If the circumstances were reversed I would want her to break all ties, and would have no problem doing the same. Any man who believes that she is only after friendship is either dense, or wants to sleep with her. My wife on the other hand would probably find the whole situation quite humorous, I mean can this woman come across as being any more desperate? I know I don't find desperation the least bit attractive.
2006-09-28 16:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by jaynowa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really the young girl you should be worried about? Shouldn't your husband be man enough to not talk/cheat? Guys will always look at girls but a real man who is married will never act on that. The question should be why do these married guys think that it is ok to cheat on their wives regardless of if the girl is young or what ever. It is the mans responsibility to be true to his wife and not the fault of anyone else.
2006-09-28 16:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I would not tell my wife but I would probably arrange to meet her at a motel and give her the wildest sex she ever had. As an older man I figure that I may not get many chances like that in my life.
2006-09-29 00:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously trying to start something...
...but in my case, that would be fine, since I have an open marriage and my wife would let me tap her since I told her in advance that I was going to.
I wouldn't tell the girl, since she wants to think she's being the home-wrecker - I would just pound her as often as she wanted until she got tired of the game and moved on.
Then I'd go back to the same hot lovin I already get daily.
:-)
2006-09-28 16:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, I would not let it get that far, but I would tell her that if she needed advice, she needed to talk to my wife and not me. I am married, happy, love my wife and this is only going to cause stress and strain on my marriage. It feels good to be attractive to younger women, but that is very temporary, he needs to remember what got him to where he is and keep his priorities straight...
2006-09-28 16:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well she obviously wants to be more than just friends. I am sure your hubby likes the attention but it needs to stop. He needs to respect your wishes and let the girl know that he can not be her shrink as it will be unhealthy for his marriage
2006-09-28 16:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is right, when she calls for advice, bring your wife in for it. After all, she's the experienced woman. I bet Ms. homewrecker will find another source of counsel...
2006-09-28 16:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell my wife we were talking. If I felt she was comming on to me, I'd stop it and stop talking to her, for my wife's sake. if I didn't, I'd still respect my wife, and I'd tell the girl that my wife felt threatened, and that if my wife continued to feel threatened I would have to put an end to talking to her at all, that my marriage came first.
2006-09-28 16:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out. He's being honest with you.
What you should do is have him invite her over to the house. If she's not attached, your husband and you should offer to fix her up.
2006-09-28 16:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋