What do I do now??

Question

Well to make the long story short I had a little fling with this guy and he actually gave me my 1st kiss but he said I could NOT be his girlfriend unless I had sex with him. Ad I ofcourse never did because Im waiting until marriage. Well I started to fall in love with him and he told me that he still liked me and that he thought i was gorgeous and beautiful. Well on his myspace he wrote about somegirl and i thought it was me but he was talking bout his ex. Turns out he is in love with her and they are now back together. Both love each other and it literally makes me sick. I cant even stop crying or thinking about it because Im so jealous of what she has! HIM. It hurts to know that he could be in love with someone that isnt me. So should i continue to be his friend or drop him altogether?

Answer 1

i wouldnt stay friends with him...but not because he has a girlfriend...but for the simple fact he disrespected you and your feelings by trying to get you to have sex with him...who in the hell is he to tell someone that they cannot be his girlfriend unless they have sex with him...honey you did the right thing by not going to bed with him...because he was gonna throw you away like a piece of trash...if he's actin like this with you now... just think of how he would have act torwards you, if you had went to bed with him...you got alot to thank yourself for...so what the hell are you crying about...he seen you wasnt easy so he went on and showed his true face...thanks to him, let him be with her better her then you huh? atleast you could walk away saying you didnt have sex with him...cause it could have been alot worse...get over it move on

Answer 2

Drop him he doesn't respect you to tell you he wouldn't be your boyfriend unless you had sex with him, I am so glad you didnt give in to him, i bet you are now.. if i were you i wouldn't be crying over him, you can do better there are plenty more out there more worthy, you deserve so much better than that, he isn't worthy of being a friend even, if there's no respect then on what would u base your freindship on? And at the end of the day, you say you feel jealous of what she has.. what exactly is that, why did they finish before if they were ex's it couldn't have been that good the first time round.

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your pain. Just do what makes you happier. Personally, I don't think that this guy sounds like a type of person you would want to be friends with, but to each his...or her own. Regarding waiting until marriage: stick to your guns. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something that you are not comfortable with or that would make you compromise your values. Hang in there!!!

Answer 4

Aren't you glad you were saving yourself "until marriage"? I used to sing along with a few songs in my youth that related to my pain when experiencing similar things, and yes it is a common experience--we don't all get lucky enough to find "the one" the first time. Just yesterday, the background radio was playing Ray Charles (just one of several who sang it) doing "You Don't Know Me"--about a guy trying to act normal when his ex greets him in public then walks away "with the other guy" (You'll never ever know, the one who loves you so, No you don't know me)

In my experience, I find it hard to hang around so I try to be somewhere else. Do what you think you can. I've know folks that can be just friends later, I'm not one of them.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I commend you on sticking with your morals about sex. The only reason he probably went back to his old girl friend is because she is willing to have sex with him and thats all he wanted anyway. I say forget him, move on, and some day you will find Mr. Right who believes in the same values that you have. Remember, it`s his loss, not yours. Don`t give in to pressure for any boy, it`s not worth it to give up your self respect.

Answer 7

It may be easier for you to get over him if you keep your distance. BTW, I so glad that you waited and didnt give in to him regarding having sex. You would have been sorry.

Answer 8

I would just drop him and move o because there is another guy out there for you some where & you deserve better than that!!!!

Answer 9

Drop him. He is not worth your time and effort. Another wonderful guy will come around. We are just like busses

Answer 10

i think that you could continue being his friend. but if you really can't stand it you con drop him. but you never know what if they break up and you will be right there to pick up the pieces.