My sister was pretty wild in college and her BF asked her the other night how many men she had been with before him. She didn't want to tell him the actuall number because she doesn't want him to think she's a slut.
She's an inteligent woman in her 30s so I told her that she isn't the only person who has a history........ so I'm asking;
How many men were you with before you choose Mr. Right/husband/BF??
2006-09-28 09:06:27 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guys I respectfully ask that this be a girls conversation please.
2006-09-28 09:14:52 · update #1
First of all tell your sister that regardless of how crazy her past was it made her who she is today. Everyone has something in their life that they may not be so proud about but don't lie. If that person can't accept you for who you are and who you once were than they aren't for you.
I only slept with 9 men before I was married and 4 of them were long term relationships the other 5 were well....one night stands basically.
My husband slept around often and was wild when he was young. Up until about 2 years before I met him everyone joked about how he always had a new girl with him and wanted to know if he bought them out of a quarter machine because he made it seem so easy. I don't think badly of my husband becuase of it because I love him and I don't feel it's that important. Sometimes we sit and talk about some of his little incounters and wild nights and we laugh!! Sometimes he tells me things and I just wanna crawl under a rock because I really don't want to know! Don't worry about it as long as you have learned from what you have done and enjoy it and realize that you have found the one and you are done looking around than who cares. Get yourself checked to make sure your given the green light and move on!!!
2006-09-28 09:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-28 09:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by lluvia2wcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-28 09:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-28 09:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-28 09:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by ????? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a woman has had many partners does not mean that she is a ho!!
I don't think sharing your sexual past with a partner is important unless you have an incurable sexually transmitted disease. Your past is just that and should stay there. If you didn't go through everything you did, you wouldn't be the person you are today. Her steps led her to Mr. Right even if every step she took wasn't exactly 'wholesome'. She didn't sin anymore than her boyfriend. Most men have their fair share of partners before settling down.
I have had my fair share of partners because I like SEX, but, didn't necessarily want a relationship. I was safe and had a great time. How many is nobody's business. Shame on those who judge!!
2006-09-28 09:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-28 09:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
bet you get a different response from the guys....why is it okay for guys to sleep with a lot of women, but for women they are called a Ho...4 sho!!! I have been on both sides of the dating game. Whether you do or don't sleep with someone and it doesn't matter how long or little you know them---women get ditched either way. If guys don't "close the deal" on the first date...they never call and if they do...you are a Ho and don't call. What's is the point? What in the h*ll do you guys want? Speaking from a 30'somethings' point of view.....
2006-09-28 09:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by gingergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated three other men,(as in seriously considered during dating as compatible), went out with 17 men, had a crush on..... waaaaaaaaayy too many to count, and had intercourse with none of them.
Personally, I have issues getting attached to a guy, so I had a no sex policy so I didn't get attached to his penis either.
My man now is everything I ever wanted, and I'm glad I waited as long as I did for the right guy, he's amazing.
2006-09-28 10:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by THE ODD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 46, married twice, and the magic number is 8. Two were men I married, two more were long term seriuos relationships. The rest were serious lapses in common sense and I was very young and immature. How's that for an answer?
2006-09-28 09:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋