He is 30 and has never really dated before. He has been dating this girl a few months, and are setting a wedding date in which they will be married within a year of meeting. This seems way to fast and I and his other friends are very concerned about the situation. How does one handle this situation.
2006-09-28 08:56:26 · 20 answers · asked by telefantastical 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is very fast, although I do have a friend that got engaged 3 months after meeting her fiancee and I got engaged 6 months after meeting my fiancee haha. But anyway if they are deeply in love with each other, if they can't see their future apart from each other and if they truly want to be together forever, then I see nothing wrong with it at all. However, if he is only doing this because it is the first girl that has shown that she is interested in him and they don't feel pure love for each other then there may be a problem. Make sure they are truly in love with each other before he does anything.
2006-09-28 09:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by TheFireWithin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You handle the situation by being happy for him and minding your own business.
There is no set time written down for how long a person should date before they get engaged or married.
2006-09-28 15:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by kimberleibenton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not a child, even if he is inexperienced, he should still be wise enough to know what's wrong and right for him. If he thinks this girl is the woman he wants to marry, then let him be. He has to make his own decisions at some point, and as a friend, all you can do is stand by him whatever the outcome is.
2006-09-28 16:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately its not yours to handle if he is happy then let him be happy. my bf and i will be getting married in less than a year of dating yes we have know each other for two years but once we started dating we knew. my friend got married within a year of knowing her bf too and they have been married a year already and they are happy and have a house.not everyone has to date for a few years before getting married some people just know from the second they met that they have found the one!
2006-09-28 16:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you have spefic reasons that it is not a good match? or is it only the speed that worries you?
I got married a few months after meeting my wife
We are now married 7 years, and I enjoy it.
and some who dated, and lived together for years, are in agony,
speed alone is not the deciding factor,
what is a concern is this lust? what is the basis.
if you are close freinds, you may ask him if he has made sure its not based on something physical.
but in the end,
your freind is the one who has to live day in and day out with being married, or being alone.
2006-09-28 16:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by papeche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Handle it by leaving him to do what he wants. It's no one business but his and his fiancé's. Stranger things have happened in the world. (My parents went out for the first time in April, were engaged in June, and married in July; still married 33 years later, with 2 kids. Good things happen.)
And if it turns out to be a "mistake" - well, what a great learning experience.
2006-09-28 16:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delicately. The problem is, he's deaf to any of your cautionary tales because he probably hasn't lived them (being inexperienced as you say he is). So.. you can suggest to him that it's going a little too fast. Suggest he proposes but stays engaged for a long long while.. If/When he doesn't though.. just let it happen and be there for him if/when it doesn't work out.
2006-09-28 15:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anything you can do that wouldn't piss him off. He has to make his own mistakes, and sometimes, as painful as it may be, friends and family can't stop them from making those mistakes and are forced to help pick up the peices later. All you can do is try your best to be happy for them, and if it does fall apart like you fear, be the best friend you can be. Good luck!
2006-09-28 15:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Just sit him down and tell them that they should plan the wedding farther out. This gives them time to get to know each better.
2006-09-28 16:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by GEE-GEE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, thats way too fast for the action to continue. What am I talking about?
2006-09-28 16:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋