My wife feels that going down on me is dirty. She does not think it is dirty for me to go down on her? If she does go down on me it is for a very short time (5 mins). I don't want a divorce, but I want to be able to talk to her with out her getting upset or feeling cheap.
2006-09-28 08:55:55 · 23 answers · asked by big d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So, whats good for her isn't good for you? You need to talk to her about this. Let her know how important it is to you.
2006-09-28 08:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry.
Wash-up, and let her hear you washing up so that she'd know you're doing it. Talk to her. Ask her if she still thinks it's dirty. Find out what exactly she considers dirty. It couldn't be the d!ck because you cleaned it. Sorry for getting vulgar, but she may think that you would p!ss in her mouth. Reassure her that you won't. Tell her that you don't have that worry when you do it for her because you trust her.
You just gotta dig deeper because there has to be a more valid reason than that.
2006-09-28 09:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she could think its dirty because it could smell (and taste) dirty.
Make sure you take a shower/bath before asking her to do this and make sure you want little willy and friends and even get around to the back side... you can not imagine the smell and nastyness that some guys harbor down there by just letting watter run over that once a day... ewwwwwwwwwww!!!!
Ohh and don't use an overpowerful perfume soap either...
Then if she still won't do it.. then you have to respect that. she could have been brought up that girls didn't do that. And then you need to decide if this is worth ending the marriage over or not... if it is.. I'm going to assume that there are other problems you have not told us about and this is just the last straw...
So... bath.. talk to her.. have her try it one last time... then talk again...
it could be she has a nasty gag reflex or she doesn't want to deep throat or you don't give her enough clues that she is doing it right... or she could just not want to do it....
2006-09-28 09:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by .... 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
why would she feel cheap? Come on, if you two are a couple for a long time I think you two should know what the other really wants.
She feels it's dirty going down on you but she doesn't feel like that when you go down on her???!!! That sounds selfish
Stop doing it, tease her, but stop :) she will surely come to an agreement if she likes what you do so much :)
2006-09-28 09:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, is that you? You know we can talk about this in person, not through Yahoo!Answers!!! haha No, sometimes a person is just not turned on by the same thing as another. My advice is, DON'T ASK! just leave it alone for a while. Maybe if she sees that you don't apply so much importance to it, she may be more willing to do it. I don't know. I try to figure out why I don't like to anymore. hmmmmm. Now I have to go think about that one. =)
2006-09-28 09:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by shellbugger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres more to a relationship than this. If she doesnt feel good about it, i assure u that wont change with pressure from u. She has to like it for her to want to do it. Would u want her to do what she doesnt like, i am sure u wont feel good too.If u want to stop, u can though.
There are other ways, ways that u both like. Indulge in that. Maybe with pressure off her, she'd be more willing. Also when u stop she'll know what shes missing.
2006-09-28 09:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it to her, that's no fair.
there are some flavored creams you can use, does she like chocolate?
next time she wants you to go down on her tell her " no, I don't like that or I don't feel like it"
she how she likes it done to her. ...
will she give you head in the shower.. that's clean
be open and honest with her about the issue, you know your wife, so you know if that would work or not but it's a thought
2006-09-28 09:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be an number of factors in why she will not do oral on you.
I think you should find out the reason. AND RESPECT HER FOR LACK OF INTEREST IN DOING THAT.
Just ask her. Why is it that you will not do oral sex on me? Ask her to be completely honest.
2006-09-28 09:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to give a little to get a little. Get her some flovored lube type things. They're called good head. You put it on the penis before she sucks it, and it tastes way better. Make sure you wash, ball sweat can big sickening maybe that's her nice way of telling you?
I personally love giving head, and that flovored lube makes it o so much better. I even got my tongue pieced to please my man better
2006-09-28 09:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by MaNdYb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her u dont think its right
turn it around on her and say i've been thinking giving you oral sex is just as nasty and u giving my oral sex so im just gonna stop
2006-09-28 09:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Mo Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her what she doesn't like about it. If she answers honest do not get angry or demanding and she should not get upset.
Next time you do her, get over her in a 69 position. When she get good and excited, she might latch on.
2006-09-28 10:55:02 · answer #11 · answered by Alfonsio Ledbetter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋