who deciedes whether you are a loser or not?

Question

and what defines that?
Indeed who defines reality and what defines personality. Ultimately, who defines importance?

Answer 1

A loser is someone who does not fit the norms or is not well liked for some reason. It is a term defined by the people surrounding the "loser" in question. It is the way the social system makes one believes lies about one's self. Personality is formed by genes and one's environment. For example, even toddlers show signs of intoversion or extraversion; this is a naturally occuring personality trait. But the child growing into a depressed/angy/happy/annoying/lovable adult may be molded by its surrounding and how that person views the world.

No one can deem you a loser without your consent. You define your own importance. I never could understand why people are pressured into "fullfilling their potential." If a person is a genius, so what? Why cant said individual be less than a professional, scientist, or mathmatician if that makes him happy? Personality is a compilation of personality traits; happiness, depression, anger, shyness, introversion, extraversion, smart, not so smart, easily offended, tough, mean, sweet. Its just traits that attempt to define and give insight into who a person is, without ever truly succeeding.

No one defines reality because in the end, we know not what is real. We are decieved daily and people lie, and we decieve others. We misunderstand others and are misunderstood ourselves. There is always some mysterious aspect to everything and everyone. We only know what we percieve, never what others percieve. Yes, we have moments of connections, I know I have many, when we understand the thoughts of another without the passing of words, but they last for only a second and are gone. However, we never KNOW the thoughts of others.

Importance. We define importance. Others define our importance to them and vice versa. It is all relative. We find groups with which we can relate and become important to others. But we must also define our own importance for ourselves and be honest with out own accession of ourselves, if such a word exists. Ive not used it in while. Anyway, yeah. Whatever you think is right in your own little world because the truth is EVERYONE believes themselves to be the center of the universe. I do things according to how they might affect me, not anyone else. If I do something "for" another person, I saw it as important to me. That is how each person worlks. Importance varies.

Answer 2

Most of the other answers are right to an extent. You do decide if you are a looser or not. But ask yourself.. what is a looser? Who is cool? Most people create an image if what is cool and what not based on what they see in the media, television, magazines, radio etc.... This happens as a child up to young adulthood. But this idea of cool and uncool changes as you age and mature and have less influences on you. It is totally natural to model yourself from what you see around you. You see how other people treat you when you act or dress a certian way and that helps you decide the type of person you want to be. The great reality is that when you grow up, get out of college (and you better go it is the best time you will ever have) you will not care if you are a "looser" or not because you would have taken all of your life experiences and develped a truly original person that you could be proud of. Everthing that happens in life is a lesson to be learned and it shapes us for as long as we live. If you were a looser then that means you have already lost yet you have so much time left. You learn from society what is right and wrong from family, religion, justice system, media etc... But you decide how that information is going to shape the person you are. You can be a follower and take society's lead literally, or be unique and learn from society and make your own reality.

Answer 3

You do. Others can say you are a loser but that doesn't mean they are right until you believe it yourself. Don't.

You are the one that defines what a loser is (in your opinion). Decide what makes you happy, what makes you feel like a winner, and go for it (without harming others, of course).

Society defines part of our reality, but, again, you are the one that defines your own life and can improve it, if you really want to.

Your personality is defined by the totality of your behavioral and emotional characteristics. Why do you have certain characteristics is anybody's guess. You can change your behavior and dominate your emotions through discipline, will power and education. As you mature and become wiser, it will become easier.

Importance is ultimately define by each of us. Things that might be important to you, might raise no interest what-so-ever in me. In society and work market your importance is given by how you can influence and/or help other people and how much your influence/help is worth to them. For example you are probably loved a lot by your family and you are of the most importance to them, your well being and your happiness weighing a lot in all their decisions. To a boss your importance will depend on your capacity to do the job you were hired to do. To your friends, your importance will depend on your trustworthiness and your support for them.

Hope my long message helps you. The best gift I would like to give you is confidence. Learn who you are and what you have to give, than just feel good in your skin and do your best. People are attracted to that.

Answer 4

YOU decide if you're a loser or not, and you define it!
Say people are calling you a "loser," so you change to suit them. They stop calling you a loser, but suddenly you're unhappy with yourself, and are having a hard time being confident or feeling good about yourself. Then you are a loser in your own mind, regardless of what other people say.
The inverse is also true - if you are happy with yourself, then you are not a loser, what ever anyone else may say.

I know in my case i've taken a lot of flak for being a lesbian - but i'm happy, I love my life, my girlfriend, my college, and my job. Am i a "loser"? The many neoconservatives and homophobes i have encountered would say so, but i'm happy, so no, i'm not.

Love yourself, and you'll never be a loser.

Answer 5

You are the only one that can decide whether you are a loser or not. A loser is someone that does nothing with their life and seeks out criminal activities due to boredom or financial gain. (Just my opinion). You also define reality and personality.
You should be the one that defines importance.
Some blame outside factors to all of these if things are not going well for them.

Answer 6

You're thinking about all this the wrong way.

There is no ultimate authority on everything.

Reality is what it is. People try (to varying degrees and with varying amounts of success) to understand reality. There's no Grand Definer. Reality just is.

If you turn the power to figure out reality to someone else, you are screwed, they will own you.

Ultimately, each person defines what's important TO THEM.

As you may have noticed, there's no shortage of people who live to define other people as losers.

Ignore them.

Answer 7

The answer to everything you have asked is the one person most important to you and that is YOU.
If you feel like a loser you will be a loser. You have to have positive thoughts and to me it starts with UNDERSTANDINGACCEPTING WHO YOU ARE if you are comfortable with that the rest slides into place.
Sh** happens to all of us we all have the fat hit the fan at some point in our lives but is is how we deal with it that matters . Sink or swim it is up to you. Outside influences/people will only define our personality if you let them and defining importance is up to one person you.
That is my own view and i know i am a winner except when my lottery ticket looses on a Saturday.

Answer 8

Hi emo > good one.
It depends largely on the thinking of the dealer and that of the players, in a card game.
Also the mathematical odds, being more important.
That is where you can win.
I am not a gambler, yet playing a roullette table in Monte, I decided that, say three reds, bet on black, three evens in a row, bet on red, three evens in a row, shove a lot of Francs on odds.
Paid for the hotel & car.
Was not a loser, so is there such a thing ?
Just wondering. No method they say ?
Not a gambler. But it worked.
Can't be unlucky, as I don't beleive in luck.

Bob

Answer 9

Well, many people will call you a loser. If you choose to believe them, then you lost, they won, and you are a loser.

Ultimately, you define yourself. It's your perception of yourself that you show others. It's your self-image created by you that others will see. Your perception of reality might be completely different from another's, and often is.

Importance has a lot to do with relevance. It's all individual opinion. Important to you is not important to me.

Answer 10

importance is derived from a stereotypical perception no one person decides importance but as a collective importance itself is based upon insecurity and power. for a person to be branded a loser or not would be that a group of two or more people follow the bandwagon principle and brand a person out of insecurity towards them self to make them feel better about themselves, Reality on the other hand is defined by one persons principles e.g. newton and gravity when posed to others who cannot intellectually or physically see beyond the principles themselves therefore accept them for what they are . i.e anything is possible if boundaries (laws, principles and theories) were not set by man. personality is based upon social and cultural surroundings aswell as the underpinnings of ones genetic makeup.