I was just wondering how far along you were. I'm 5 1/2 weeks and scared to death of miscarrying I have had one already about 5 months ago.♥ I just need some comforting, I'm freaking out♥ I have been to the doc and everything is good but I'm still so nervous. I go for my sonogram on the 19 of Oct. then maybe my mind will be eased. Also how soon would you know if you had an ectopic pregnancy. I have no pain but I did used to have PID so I am at risk for it. Thank you for all the nice answers. And please no rude remarks, I don't need that right now♥
2006-09-28 08:36:27 · 12 answers · asked by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Did you know in advance you were going to miscarry? Like symptoms stopped or something. Did the cramping or blood come first?
2006-09-28 08:53:56 · update #1
Im 6 weeks along and understand how u feel. i was having cramps in my right lower abdomen and, although I knew they were just stretching deep down, my dr sent me for a trans-vaginal scan to put my mind at rest regarding ectopic. and it did. As for miscarriage, i had one 3 yrs ago and up till last week was also worried about it. What has calmed me down is researching the subject a bit more and finding out that its actually quite difficult to lose a baby from any action the mother does.What also put my mind at rest is that 2 of my friends have recently had strong healthy babies. One of them suffered from a violent husband, smoked weed and cigarettes heavily throughout pregnancy and the other is serverely overweight and diabetic! now i figure if these two women can still have healthy babies then me, who doesn't smoke, has a lovely partner and who is eating right and taking correct vits has a EXCELLENT chance of carrying my baby this time. U will be fine, i promise. Also every time i get a little stressed about things I get pains in my tummy. Therefore Ive made a resolution that this pregnancy is going to be as stressless as possible, for both of us!!
As for my miscarriage, I got excruciating pains and blood round about the same time. it wasn't just a little pain here and there for a few days it was pretty much all at once and lasted for a good 3-4 days. Little cramps and aches DO NOT indicate a miscarrage so please relax, have a nice warm bath and de-stress.
Good luck, keep focused and stay positive. xx
2006-09-28 09:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 miscarriages and 2 healthy children. The first miscarriage was very early in pregnancy and thee second was in the 11th week. I did start cramping and spotting 3 days prior to the miscarriage. I had the miscarriage on 11/14/85 and believe it or not, my second son's due date was 11/14/86!!! He is extremely healthy and I had no complications at all during that pregnancy. I believe the miscarriage was meant to be for whatever reason. Especially getting pregnant just 3 months later with the exact due date. Stressing and worrying during your pregnancy will not be helpful for you, I know, easier said than done. When you get into the stressful thoughts, it could be helpful to put on soft music, candles, a warm bath, anything you find relaxing. Keep your chin high and have faith. As for the ectopic pregnancy, they will know with the sonogram. I am sure your Dr is aware of your PID and will keep that in mind when listening to heart beats and doing the sonogram. There should be support groups in your area that you should be able to join or just talk to others in your position. I have also found a link on understand miscarriages. I wish you and your family the best and hope you can soon relax and enjoy the preparation of this wonderful event.
2006-09-28 09:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by tenabutter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I was 9 weeks. I didn't really miscarry...just when they did the internal ultrasound they said that the baby wasn't where it should be and instead I just had a small mass of tissue where it should have been. REALLY devastating. My husband was with me at the time, and we didn't say anything the whole car ride home. As soon as we got home we burst into tears in front of his parents who were staying with us at the time. I had to get a D&C. This was almost a year ago.
Now I'm pregnant again and like you, I'm so scared that it's going to happen again. Everyone says that there are so many people who miscarry and then go on to have normal pregnancies...but if I'm not one of those lucky ones? I guess I should just try to be positive, right? I'll find out at my internal ultrasound on Oct. 13 (doesn't help my nervousness that that's Fri. the 13th).
Anyway - we'll both keep our chins up. I'm sure everything will be fine. I'd love to hear how it goes for you - and I'll let you know what happens with me, too!
We've got to stay positive!! Upbeat!! Chipper!! :-)
2006-09-28 08:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lexie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 3 1/2 months pregnant when I had a miscarriage. I was not typical though. The baby had broken away from my uterus and was not viable. 2 months later I was pregnant again and able to carry a healthy baby to term. I now have two beautiful children!
Just remember that it is not your fault! A miscarriage is natures way of ending a non-viable pregnancy early. Still devasting, I know!
It sounds like you are doing everything right! Early and frequent check-ups! If you have any questions or feel that anything is not right...CALL your doctor. That's what they get paid to do!
Just try to take care of yourself and relax! The stress is not good for both you or the baby! Enjoy seeing your baby for the first time on the ultrasound and start to think positively! You seem to be doing perfect this time around!
Congrats and Good Luck!
2006-09-28 08:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like the other ladies have said, dont stress. I had a misscarriage about 1-2 months ago. I was devastated. But I get to try again next month and even though I will worry when I am pregnant that I will miscarry again, I am going to enjoy my self, my body and this new baby. Be happy that you had no problems getting pregnant, and enjoy every second of what is happening to you now. Stay strong!
2006-09-28 08:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even know i was pregnant. I had just gotten off of my period and then 4 days later i started bleeding (Light red-red-brown) and it was not heavy. I hurt so bad in my stomach and back. I was also so tired but my mom and my husband both had me believing i was having 2 periods in one month (which never happens to me) but i didn't think anything of it until i couldn't take the pain anymore and went to the er and they told me i was pregnant (5 weeks) and then they done an sonagram on me but i had done miscarried.
I was put in the hospital overnight then the next day the pain and the bleeding was gone so if i had not of gone to the er i would have never known i was pregnant.
I would have a 7 month old baby right now if i didn't miscarry.
It is a sad thing to go through.
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2006-09-28 10:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one a year ago. I'm now 32 weeks pregnant again and everything has been fine. I know what you mean though I was the same way every little pain I had made me worry that something was wrong but I think that that's just natural after what you've experinced. I'm sure everything will be fine this time around. Good Luck on your pregnancy.
2006-09-28 10:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by dixiefrogs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! I had a miscarriage (6 weeks), right before I got pregnant with my daughter. I know have a beautiful 2 year old! Don't put added stress into your life, if it was meant to be it will happen. Good luck and I wish you the best!
2006-09-28 08:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by kimbliss327 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For whatever reason God felt that it was either the wrong time or the wrong baby so he took it back and now has given you a new baby. Don't stress and worry about it just enjoy it. Worrying is actually a really bad idea so try to be happy and up beat cause the baby feels everything you feel.
2006-09-28 08:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Trish H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand. I had a miscarriage once, and it broke my heart. I prayed. I tried again for 2 months. Because I thought I couldn't have any children..After continuously trying, I finally got pregnant in the 4th month of trying, she is now 2. 20 months later, I had another one. You will be fine, stay strong, you got to have faith. (As I know you already have that).
2006-09-28 08:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋