i know alot of ppl have a problem with dealing with change, and i know its mostly about being in your own comfort zone, but sometimes i feel like i take it above and beyond, almost compulsive! i cant spend time with ppl i dont know, i cant sleep anywhere but my own bed, i cant eat foods that i havent been eating for a long time. i feel like im so terrified to do anything out of my normal because im so scared of whats gonna happen, and i cant make myself deal with the changes! what can i do to make myself more open to change? PLEASE HELP
2006-09-28 08:31:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your anxiety may be abnormal. Everybody has some anxiety when it comes to new things but most people are able to analyze the situation and determine the worst case scenario and move thru it. Does it keep you from living everyday life? Do you find yourself going out of your way to avoid things which cause you anxiety? Check with a medical professional.
2006-09-28 08:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think this is a major problem then you need to see a professional but if you are just happy with things the way they are then i don't see a problem. If it is not broke..... If you have to face a major change like a move or marriage, kids it will help you deal with change because there is nothing you can do about it. If you let your fears get in the way of your life like a new career or school then you have got a problem. Life IS Change and there is nothing wrong with keeping some things the same. But again, if your fears start interfering with good change and you don't do something just because you are scared you will regret it and you will wake up one day saying "if i had only followed my dream and not been so scared then......." Think about it! But there is nothing wrong with sleeping in your own bed and eating what you like. If you really wanted to be open to new things you would be.
2006-09-28 15:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that your belief in God is minimal, if at all? If I am wrong, then let us move in the opposite direction. What is the very worst thing that can happen? You die, right? Fear is normally of the unknown. If you knew that if you died, that you would , in relatively short order, be back again, would that reduce the fear any?
How about this... each of us has a Fate Karma, and that Fate Karma is precise, and absolute. The very date, time, and method of your death is already in play... to worry about that over which you have no control is silly, right?
There is only one absolute on the physical plane of existence... any idea what that is? It's change. Everything on the physical plane is subject to, and is in fact, changing.
Finally, work on this... look up in the sky and see which way the clouds are going, and with all your might, make then go the other way. If you can't do this, then just make it night, or if you can't do this make the tap water run as milk, or if you can't do this make yourself two inches taller. You get my point? Having "control" over ones life is an illusion. Once you can accept this fact, then catch yourself every time your MIND tries to jerk you around with worry about something happening that you did not expect.
Peace
2006-09-28 16:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky because the reason would take hours of personality probing to get to the root cause. And even then, some of it's going to be inherited traits from your genes (this is possible even if your immediate parentage does not show the same traits).
I sincerely believe that you should start by seriously digging within yourself to figure out what things during your development has caused this trait and then you can systematically find activities to work on it.
Oh and just a thought, but you may be experiencing a paranoia cycle where your fear increases from the fear you have (like hyperventilation in your head). But who know...
2006-09-28 15:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by phillytocalifornia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter that is like you and I be live it is because she can not cope with a diff rent life none that she is a adult and has to make her own decions.I think you are going to have to make yourself do things out of your comfort zone to find out that the world will not stop spinning and the more you make your self do these little things the easy er it will get, you have to prove to yourself that not thing is going to happen to you if you eat some thin you never had be for,it may be hard to do but just try.
2006-09-28 15:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by sandyjean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pills and medicine do and can help, but i have learned that you can heal yourself the best.
You run ahead and stress in your mind, and when you arrive physically , it is not so bad, sometimes even better..
Just go sit down, look back at all the incidents in your life, and see the wasted energy and stress you caused yourself.
Why would things change now for the worse ? Just plan sensibly for the changes,and live each day to the best of your ability.
When you have learnt to relax, sometimes things fall in place even with minimum effort.
2006-09-28 17:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Featherman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would check with a psychologist.
That could be linked to a medical condition. My son has been like you at some point of his life (toddler), in a very acute form. That was linked to some physical issues (very severe exema, food allergies etc). At ten, he still needs the security of some strong "reference points" in daily life but he can operate very well.
So I am certain you can improve and work on that but it may take patience and time. As an adult it all has to do with your motivation, what's in it for you. Reflect on what you lose if you lose that fear. Yes, not only what you gain if you do not have it, but what you lose if you get rid of it.... There must be some sort of reason why it is more comfy to you to operate the way you do. (That is the same with all of us, when we identify something in ourselves we are not pleased about but can't get rid of... That's not only you on that topic).
Good luck to you.
2006-09-28 16:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's scarry for us all! but once you do step out of your zone and try it at least you 'll get such a rush you'll feel alive! instead of the same!
but you fear this because of your subconsiousness! it runs your life and when you try to change.. you subconsiousness don't like change and wants to keep that stafty net for you!
Let go of the blanket and give it a shot!
start little and dream big!
it is is stopping you from your goal then you must not want your goal that bad so find a goal you WANT! and nothing will keep you in your comfert zone!
Mad luv
2006-09-28 15:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that you need to be speaking with a therapist about because whenever you have a problem or habit that controls your life and daily activities then there is a problem. There is nothing wrong with you it's just that you unknowingly let a habit get out of control. You are just a creature of habit.
2006-09-28 15:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by jamocha_1700 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a pretty level headed person with a good understanding of your problem.
Now you need to do what any smart person would. get some qualified help.
No need for you to do it alone and don't delay it thinking it will take care of itself.
You are missing out on all these wonderful bad and good new experiences that make the ride so much more exciting.
go see your doctor he/she will refer you to the right service.
2006-09-28 15:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by webby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋