My BF was gone for 4 days, when he came home ....?

Question

...he took me straight into the bedroom and , well, ya know....But since then (tuesday) he has barely said two words to me, looks like he's really depressed and hasn't smiled at all. We have been together 4 years and he has been like this for a while but never this bad. Why would he only be happy when we are having sex and praticly forget about me when we are not?

Answer 1

Your bf is suffering from depression, its not about you or anyone else. He is not happy only when he is having sex, its just that at that time he is able to concentrate on something other then his depression. Your bf needs help and may need to talk to his family doctor, or regular doctor, and if he doesn't have one, may need to go to your local health department. He has depression..... bad depression and it has nothing to do with you, its not about you. Depression can be chemical imbalance in a person and they don't even know it. I hope this has helped. Blessed be

Answer 2

It's perfectly normal. After 4 years, you guys probably ran out of exciting things to tell each other and do together, and the sex is all he wants from you now. Start bitching around a little, pick fights, surprise him with some weird kind of behavior. You need to get his attention back, in life not only in the bedroom. BTW I don't think he's cheating, or else after coming back he would be too tired to even touch you.

Answer 3

You really need to sit him down and talk to him, find out what is wrong with him and why he is depressed. There must be a reason. And if sex is the only thing he wants then you really shouldn't be in that kind of relationship. No one should be in a relationship that the other partner only wants sex and if that is the only reason he is in the relationship with you then you really need to stop that before anything bad happens. But, like I said, you seriously need to sit him down and have a talk with him to find out what is wrong with him.

Answer 4

Here are some warning signs that your bf could be cheating on you.

* Your bf seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.

* Your bf seems to want danger or thrills in his/her life.

* There is considerably less intimacy in your relationship. Your sex life is practically non-existent.

* Your bf has a low self-esteem.

* You notice your bf has a sense of confusion about self.

* You bf has become lazy, especially around the house.

* You can't get your bf to communicate with you.

* Your bf gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.

* Your bf is suddenly more attentive than usual.

* Your bf is working longer hours at work.

* Your bf is dressing nicer, looking nicer.

* You notice charges on credit card statement that don't make sense.

* Your bf is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.

* You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.

* Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.

* He doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.

* You can't even get your bf to fight with you.

* You feel as if you are being avoided.

* Your bf abandons religious faith.

* Your bf seems more secretive.


Signs of Depression

Everyone feels sad or gets down from time to time, but sometimes it’s more than that. Sometimes, it can be clinical depression.

Clinical depression affects more than 19 million Americans each year.

Unfortunately, less than half of the people who have clinical depression seek treatment. Many people believe that it is a “normal” part of life and that they will pull out of it on their own. Untreated depression causes unnecessary suffering and disruption in daily life and work, and costs about $44 billion a year in lost workdays, decreased productivity, sick leave and other costs.

Depression is a real illness. The good news is that it can be treated, and that success rates for treatment are very high.
KNOW THE SIGNS

The signs and symptoms of clinical depression are:

* Persistent sad, anxious or "empty" mood
* Changes in sleep patterns
* Reduced appetite and weight loss, or increased appetite and weight gain
* Loss of pleasure and interest in once-enjoyable activities, including sex
* Restlessness, irritability
* Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as chronic pain or digestive disorders
* Difficulty concentrating at work or at school, or difficulty remembering things or making decisions
* Fatigue or loss of energy
* Feeling guilty, hopeless or worthless
* Thoughts of suicide or death

If you experience five or more of these symptoms for two weeks or longer, you could have clinical depression. See a doctor or qualified mental health professional for help, right away.

If you are supervising an employee who exhibits any of these symptoms and has frequent, unexcused absences, discuss the situation with the individual, but do not try to diagnose the problem. Suggest that the employee seek help from his or her doctor or from an Employee Assistance Program (EAP).

Answer 5

Sounds like he might be using drugs. Sometimes you have to learn to love you yourself, before you start trying to love someone else. Put some space between you, make him miss you, maybe the truth will come out as why he's acting so weird.

Answer 6

It sounds as if he may be guilty because he cheated on you, and he thought if he came right home and showed you how much he loved you, it would make him feel less guilty. Apparently it didn't work and he is ashamed of himself. Talk to him, ask him for the truth. You deserve it.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, I'd be instantly suspicious. Sounds like he feels guilty & is relieved to be back to you. Where did he go? Who did he see? Did he, sorry, cheat on you and is overcome with guilt?
Maybe he was tying up loose ends on an old relationship? He may have momentarily screwed up.

Answer 8

this should be something you ask him, not us. communication is the key to a good relationship :)
just ask him what's bothering him.

Answer 9

Because while he was gone he cheated on you.

Answer 10

maybe he has atypical depression