Ever since I gave up alcohol over a year I have had no sex drive at all. I don't find anyone sexually attractive and don't desire sex or to be in a relationship. I don't mastrubate anymore either.
I don't miss having a sex drive at all and dread it returning - how can I be sure that I will never get it back? If possible I would like to remain celibate forever more and never have the slightest desire to have a relationship. Is there anything I can do to permantly and totally destroy my sex drive once and for all?
2006-09-28 08:05:16 · 34 answers · asked by monkeymanelvis 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I had regular sex for several years when I was younger and enjoyed it at the time but now I just consider it to be wasted time. I realise sex to be considered normal but as Morrissey sings "There is no such thing as normal".
The main reason why I don't want my sex drive to return is that when I had one all I ever wanted was to be in relationships which I knew would fail. I genuinly believe I will never have a sucessful longterm relationship due to several severe personality disorders I suffer from.
I really want to continue not only being content to remain alone forever but to remain happier single than in a relationship.
Are there any medications used to control rapists I could take? Or anything like that.
2006-09-28 08:28:30 · update #1
Why would you enjoy that? I find that sad. I guess to answer your question...stay off the liquor.
2006-09-28 08:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never come across a question like this before, I assume there must be good points in not having a sex drive! I was thinking along the lines "you must have had a sex drive at one time don't you miss it"??
Then the thought occurred to me that the same thing could be asked about smoking!
Not that I am trying to link the two together, but with smoking you need to remind yourself frequently what a dirty filthy habit it was, if you could employ the same tactic to sex perhaps that would keep you on your present path?
It has been proved that having ones nuts removed doesn't do the job! so no need to go that far!!
Viagra increases the blood flow to the penis and is supposed to increase the sexual drive? So the opposite of that would be a very tight rubber band?? (That is not meant as a serious suggestion)!!
2006-09-28 08:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by budding author 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not really, there are several anti-depressants that will suppress your sex drive but that is a side effect,not a desirable one. I would say that if you are serious about never wanting to have sex again then there is a possibility that you may have a bit of a phobia of intimacy and adult relationships, I personally would recommend some psycho-sexual counselling. Sex forms part of a natural healthy adult relationship, and if you feel unable or afraid to experience sexual desire then I would suggest this may be part of some undiagnosed depressixe disorder. Apologies if I am way off the mark but I do have a reasonable knowledge of this subject.
2006-09-28 08:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by princess_la_paz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Supressing emotions and desires is not a good thing to do, you said you have personality disorders it is quite possible and very probable that these disorders are caused by your suppression of your feelings.
You have a mild to acute inferiority complex becuase you do not believe you will be able to last in a long term relationship.
Sex and masturbation is healthy and helps relieve the body of unrequired hormones which build up over time. This relief in most people gives them a sense of self.
I do not think you need to suppress your sex drive rather, well, don't take this the wrong way but you have issues you need to discuss and since they are sensitive and given then info in your question this isn''t the place to discuss these issues.
Please go and seek professional help, i can respect that you don't want to have sex and you don't have to but there is a sub-conscious drive willing you to suppress it for whatever reason and you need to understand this more.
2006-09-29 03:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an interesting question. I have a Brain Injury from a car accident and my sex drive has been reduced and I miss it. There is alot of things I don't understand about sex I guess.
Maybe you should think about the things that you don't like about sex and try to change them, and then think about the things that you do like about it and focus on these things.
I am sure that you could talk to your doctor and see if there is a prescription that you could take that might help with supression if you do find that this would be your best alternative.
Good Luck.
Chad
2006-09-28 08:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by sugarpacketchad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sound a lot like a kind of addiction, a visit to the doctor may be in order if things don't get better in a month or so.
Watch out for depression, keep yourself active, get in touch with your friends and eat healthy, at best, get some excessive.
Non of this thing will get your sex drive back by themselves, but one you are in shape, surrounded by friends and healthy you can have all the sex in the world ;).
2006-09-28 08:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bolo Lacertus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are half way there.
Why not, and I don't want to offend you, but why don't you talk to a natureopath...no psychiatrist, no psychologist. I am older than you and know a lot and I don't want you to think that there isn't someone out there that can understand; I mean, really understand what you may be going through. Dr's. are trained in medicine and natureopaths are trained to recognize what affects different things that we ingest in our body. They study and are continually fight for a persuasive method to heal, not by drugging and other radical means.
Promise me you will at least consider seeing one. Doctors are wonderful but they don't have ALL the answers....if they did we would not have cancer. Take your time and please consider a natureopath.
2006-09-28 08:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you feel the urge think about something non-sexual like a piece of furniture in your house and ditch all sexual things like videos and magazines or even think about your parents doing it n u'll surely never want to have sex again.
2006-09-28 08:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by kellyannabairduk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kep a picture of Tony Blair with you at all times. If ever you feel the urge, just get it out and look at his ugly mug. You soon cease to have any desire at all!
2006-09-28 08:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by Fluffy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound really down, I dont believe that you never want to have sex again- you're just really hurt right now so you are bound to be a bit raw. dont worry you find somebody who will make you happy one day... but dont go out looking for them to come to you. go out there and live your life...
2006-09-28 11:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋