I am a widow,aged 41, and looks like 33 only.3 years age,my husband dead of cancer. I sweard to him,I will never marry ,give birth again and wear wedding dress.....but will find partner after griefing period...
Coz att aht time, my heart is like 55 and I have 2 children.Now my children are 15 1/2(boy) and 11(girl), I met a very wonderful man afew months ago ,he was diverced ,with a 7 years old boy.We wish to have another child,that runs our blood.......How about my swear?
2006-09-28 07:59:00 · 23 answers · asked by russclara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Pray to God for forgiveness.
2. Thank God for sending this wonderful new man into your life.
3. Pray to God for guidance.
4. Go to couples counseling with your new boyfriend.
5. If all goes well, marry the guy and have another child! God forgave you, right?
2006-09-28 08:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it's wonderful that you have found love once more.
When we are grieving we say things that we think will please our family or we genuinely feel that way but as time goes by the pain is lessened but I'm sure you still appreciate the life you had with you deceased husband.
If he loved you and I'm sure he did he would want you to be happy and to live your life to the fullest.
You deserve to be happy.... why should you stop living because your husband died? It doesn't make any sense, can you see that?
Everything in this world happens for a reason and who knows, this man you have fallen in love with is there to help you heal and to start a new life for you.
Don't feel guilty, there is no reason to, just be happy and make someone else happy too.
2006-09-28 09:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by slipper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we make promises we can't keep because we are trying to look better in someone else's eyes or we don't want to hurt them. You're human...forgive yourself for not being able to keep a promise that was not possible to keep and allow yourself to be loved. Teach your children that life goes on and that you all deserve to live a full and happy life. That will be a gift to them, which is the best gift you can give to yourself and to the memory of your husband. Open your heart fully to this new man and his child and be at peace with your decision.
2006-09-28 08:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was selfish on his part to make you promise not to remarry - I'm sorry, but it's true. Don't feel guilty about wanting more from life.
you are still young and have a lot of love to give and receive. Go ahead and get married again and enjoy your life. you owe it to yourself and your children to a happy, nurturing, loving life. Life is short and you never know what could happen in the future.
Think of it this way - how do you see your life 10 or 20 years from now if you keep your promise. Then think of how you WANT your life to look 10 or 20 years from now.
You are lucky to have found someone to love and to love you twice in your life. good luck to you dear.
2006-09-28 08:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. I understand it is going to be hard on you and the family members, but they are not the one that see you crying in your room at night.
The story can be long, but I'l lmake it short.
Keep you dead husband in your heart and tell you bf that he will always be in your heart even if you be with him, he cannot be replace. If he understand than you have a new guy that care and respect you. I said he is a good man.
2006-09-28 08:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should of been more realistic with you. He can't expect you to give up your life cuz of his death. I wouldn't want my husband to stop loving. Why don't you go to his site and tell him that you want to take that promise back because you find love again? Try to find peace within yourself to move on and forget about the promise. What does this man think about this? I hope he is compassionate. Find it within yourself and try to get over this. I'm sure your husband don't want you to be miserable for the rest of your life. Good luck and do what you think is best.
2006-09-28 08:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your late husband would want you to be happy and live life again. You will never forget him and you never will. Your swearing you will never marry again was during your grieving process and was to be expected. Don't hold on to that. Don't make your life not worth living by denying yourself some happiness.
2006-09-28 08:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things happen. I am sure he would want you to be happy. You have the rest of your life to live, your still young and should not feel guilty. Visit your husband where he lies and talk to him about it. You will get your answer from there.
2006-09-28 08:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by madamjenn40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband would want you to be happy, live and be happy. But don't you think you are getting up there in age to be having another child? You will be 59 when the child graduates.
2006-09-28 08:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to continue to live your life. Its unfortunate your first husband got cancer and died but your life doesn't have to die along with his. You only have this one life. Why waste it not being happy. You've now been given a second chance and you should take it. God will understand.
2006-09-28 08:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋