Does anyone have any ideas on how to cope with annoying in laws? I am financially stable, but my culture tells me to live with them, which is why I am there. So, how do I put up with them????
2006-09-28 07:56:56 · 30 answers · asked by grace s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find activities that keep you out of the house as much as possible
2006-09-28 07:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Almost all modern women find it equally annoying. The culture is going through a transition period- sending women to work and yet restricting them to live with in laws. Now that women have financial independence, they can say they find it stupid.
You can indulge into things that keep you outside home. I think you can create ur own space, getting your own electrical appliances and etc. If its very hard, discuss it with your husband. Convince him that you are not being selfish. He should understand if the problem is severe.
Good luck.
2006-09-28 15:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Luck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh is your husband a mamas boy? That could be the problem! Get the hell out before its to late. If you are financially stable then whats the problem? Get your own place and tell your husband to be a man and stand up for his independence.
2006-09-28 15:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Love Child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your husband and how he feels about it. This is something you should discuss with him. In what ways are they annoying? Maybe everyone should sit down as a family to discuss any problems. If your financially stable, maybe you can build onto the house to give you & your husband your "own" space.
2006-09-28 15:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by Littles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go get a copy of the book called "Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage" by Susan Forward so you can really learn how to free yourself from the frustrating, hurtful and infuriating relationships with your toxic in-laws.
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2006-09-28 15:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your culture is but you should talk to them about problems if you live in the same house. If you contribute to the house you should have a say. If this is not possible, write your problems on paper, then burn the paper. Soon your frustrations will build up until you decide to burn the house.
2006-09-28 14:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by RJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is stay out of their way and come to a compromise on things that annoys you about them. Stay in your room or area of the house if you can. You can also talk to them and tell them what is bothering you about what they're doing.
2006-09-28 14:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your culture or change your attitude. It is their house, after all. Your culture probably also tells you that you should serve them respectfully as your husband's parents.
If you're accepting part of the deal (the free-loading part) you need to accept it all... and vice versa. Do your part or move out.
2006-09-28 15:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Rani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to appreciate them for who they are instead of complaining about them. You will find that when you change your attitude to a more positive one ("these are lovely people who have taken me in and I'm lucky to be able to spend this time with them") than negative ("I have to live with them - how can I put up with them"), you will start to find living with them easy and enjoyable instead of work. And don't forget, its possible they like living with you even less than you like living with them - and your attitude makes that very likely.
2006-09-28 15:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is so annoying than move out. They gave you a home to live in, not the other way around. Damn!
2006-09-28 15:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there if you really dont want to.
Your "culture" is not set law and you can still believe things but not follow every little thing about it.
2006-09-28 14:58:37 · answer #11 · answered by Wite Out 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋