Does fantasizing result in affairs?

Question

if i find myself fantasizing of affairs OFTEN.
my husband has heart problems, not to mention, that part of him no longer works..
am i setting myself up, i have not acted on anything, but i want to?

Answer 1

Fantasizing is a natural thing. It is living out our sexuality in our minds. It doesnt lead to cheating unless you allow it too. It's too bad your hubby has health problems, that doesnt mean you have to become a sexless being, enjoy your fantasies, masturbate to them if youd like, but dont feel guilty about them.

Answer 2

Everyone has sexual fantasies. But, be careful to keep them reeled in or you might find yourself flirting with someone you're fantasizing about. If you're the type who doesn't think flirting is a bad thing, think about the consequences of stirring emotions in yourself, and the one you're flirting with. This is how "crushes" develop. This how people end up jumping into bed with someone else for a fling. Fantasize all you want, but don't act on them.

Answer 3

Here is what I would do. As hard it is, I would talk to my spouse and let them know of my feelings and urges and needs. You are a human and you have your needs and there is nothing wrong with that. I am sure that if the other side loves you very much they will understand as we all have these feelings sometime. If it would come to that, and you would agree that it would be ok, I would have my love help me to see who the best candidate is and make my other feel comftarble about the whole thing, and know that you are safe and sound. That is what I would do.

Answer 4

I think it serves to reduce the liklihood of an affair. Sometimes fantasies feel real and they can compensate for what is truly missing. If you end up having an affair, it is likly that it would have happened with or without the fantasies... Just think either way, you will never know...

Answer 5

I don't think you're setting yourself up for anything unless you want to. You sound like a frustrated woman with a healthy sex drive that isn't getting any. You'll only have an affair if you want to, so that's a question only you can answer.

Answer 6

It can but most likely if they are just fantasizing, that's all and they just need to get over it and figure out something else to do to ease the pain caused by whatever makes them feel the need to fantasize over someone else.

Answer 7

Fantasies are perfectly normal. You have a unique situation with your husband. Have you talked to him about this? I would be totally open and honest with him! He probably isn't feeling very manly at this point, so be gentle but don't mince your words! I am sure you will be OK. If nothing else, buy yourself a vibrator!

Answer 8

If you play with it in your mind long enough, then you will eventually start to consider it and before long you will be looking at how to do it and the slope is slippery from there...I understand you have needs and you should talk to your husband about them. Perhaps the two of you can work something out, oral, toys...?

Answer 9

Yes it does, if you are fantasizing of a specific person that you are in contact or communication with.

General fantasizing, maybe no.

But if it's a person you know, and are in contact/communication with.......you'd better stop it because you are setting yourself up for infidelity.

Answer 10

is being with someone else going to make you more happy than being with your husband? if so, you might want to talk to him about it and see if you can find a resolution to your problem first without making any decisions that you might regret later.