i went to set up an account on my space and looked up my hubands name, i looked at his blogs and such and they are all sexual. his descriptions say he like a little slap and tickle, hes looking for someone to enjoy his company etc...can anyone help, im worried
2006-09-28 07:49:39 · 27 answers · asked by sweetwhitegirl28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is very worrisome. I would sit down with him and talk to him about what you saw and read. He is going to be defensive at first and I'm sure he will try to convince you in some way that it's no big deal...or he could turn it around and blame in some way as well. But you need to keep focused and let him know that you are worried and tell him how it makes you feel. If he doesn't stop then counseling is definitely in order...if he won't do it then go for you to get help in how to deal with this situation. If it bothers you and he is a loving husband then it should bother him as well...that alone should be enough for him to be honest about it and stop. Best of luck to you...
2006-09-28 07:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by DreamingofU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say I'm sorry that you are going through this. Second, you need to be worried. Whether your husband is actually having sex wiht other women or not, he's cheating. I can tell you from experience that this situation seldom ends well. My ex was doing the internet thing and was very similar to what you describe. I got our bank statement that contained a charge for an internet dating site and he had posted comments really close to the ones you are writing about. I think you need to confront him and then determine whether or not this is something you can deal with. For me, I reached the point where reality slapped me in the face and I knew I needed to leave. What I would encourage you to remember is that life really does go on. When this happened to me I thought my world would end and I would never love again. Boy was I wrong. It took some time but I met my the most wonderful man who just happened to have gone through this exact same thing. Today that jerk that hurt me is a distant memory that does nothing but remind me how blessed I am today. I can't tell you what to do and your situation may be different from mine but definately put yourself first and don't forget that you are worth having someone who loves you and would never hurt you. If you want to talk please feel free to email me...jazzy_59602@yahoo.com. Hang in there, my thoughts are with you.
2006-09-28 08:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by UCURGYPSY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried. If a married man is looking for someone else besides his wife to slap and tickle him, then there is a problem. You need to talk to him and see what is going on. He may deny the page, but you can always show it to him. He can change it on there where you won't be able to see the page or fix his name different so you won't know it. Be careful of myspace!
2006-09-28 07:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by whiskey_girl0814 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that u need to discuss with your husband, who r we to say that ur husband is cheating? How do u know that he just couldn't be having innocent fun? I make up stuff all the time on those types of sites just for fun, don't get so worked up over some $hit that is on the computer it would be different if this was happening in your face. Don't be jealous of a computer.
2006-09-28 07:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you went lookin for trouble and u found it...if he's lookin for something unusual than u must not be doing enough to keep him satisfied....sit down and just start a conversation about the description of what he was lookin for not actually letting him know that u know, because he'll feel that he can't trust u for snooping,...believe men have a way of turning their wrong into your wrong so be careful how you approach this situation don't jump to conclusions until u find out what's going on.Believe me they know how to put the show on the other foot
2006-09-28 07:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to know for sure....use a friends computer or go to the library and make up a phoney name and see for yourself what he is doing. He will never be able to deny what you have experienced with him. I know its deceit but what he is doing is also and you need answers. If your anything like me you would rather believe his lies once confronted. Screw that whole game. Cut to the chase and find out what exactly your husbands doing. If he is screwin around...see him later!!!! I want someone who wants only me, dont u? doesnt everyone male or female??? good luck girl!
2006-09-28 08:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nasty. You need to talk, and get counseling, if you want to stay in this relationship. He's either actually looking for it, or just likes the mental masturbation. In either event, you should have some serious questions about whether or not you want to be with this assh*le.
Whether physically or mentally it IS cheating.
2006-09-28 07:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE's Thinking about cheating. If the right little honey-dew came along it would be more than just thinking. You need to have a serious talk with the guy, he sounds like a jerk.
2006-09-28 07:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by akristel2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a married adult right ?? So why are YOU setting something up on myspace ??? Myspace is like a teenager thing or adults looking to "meet" people. You're no better than he is !!!
2006-09-28 07:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries. It's probably your son that set up the account.
2006-09-28 07:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋