At school while picking her up, I told her to get her bag, she told me to get it myself, I attempted to smack her hand, she hit me in my arm, I have since put her on time out, taken away her T.V privilege... I wanted to smaked that butt sooo hard ! Am I wrong for feel this way and what should I do ??
2006-09-28 07:46:38 · 28 answers · asked by Jasmine J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-09-28 07:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are NOT WRONG in feeling this way. And you were *RIGHT* in punishing her. A child should never hit their parent. EVER..... And if these punishments do not do the trick in teaching her that, and she does it again..... Then you should smack her butt soooooooo hard!! She has to learn that she can not back talk you when you ask her to do something and it is NOT ok for her to slap you back when you smack her little hand. When she hit you in your arm, that is when you should have popped her in the rear and good. And then put her in time out when you got home and take away her tv privilege for a week. (Mon-Fri) . I hope you take more affirmative action with her if she ever does it again. You have to make her understand that you are the parent and she is the child. Blessed be. I hope this has helped.
2006-09-28 07:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a child who thinks she's the mother. Put your foot down. And no it's not a bad thing for you to feel the way you do. No child should be allowed to hit there parent. It's only gonna get alot worse if you let her keep up. You take her to school and pick her up. Make her stay in her room w/out anything. No tv no games no nothing just a bed and clothes. Only let her out to eat and bath for a week stright and sit her down tell her why your doing this to her. B/c she feels she has the right to hit you and tell her once she can learn to keep her hands to herself than maybe just maybe she'll be allowed out of her room.. Hope this helps some.
2006-09-28 07:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most states you are allowed to spank your child on the butt no more than three times. I suggest you use this right to discipline your child and let her know how it feels to be embarrassed in public, and teach her that you will no longer put up with that kind of behavior, and if you don't take control now than later you will have a real problem on your hands. Nip it in the butt before it is to late good luck!
2006-09-28 08:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by apache672004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your daughter is a good learner. She smacked you first! Seriously, using violence of any kind on a child just teaches that child to do the same. However, that doesn't mean that you cannot control your child. It sounds like you have the right moves in terms of depriving her of something she wants as a consequence to unacceptable behavior. Just remember that it is critical that you be absolutely consistent in your applications of punishment. If she learns that she can do something so bad that it forces you to escalate and strike her, for example, you will lose. Be patient and strong!
2006-09-28 07:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there 3 times now boys though...if your going to spank you need to really spank not just a swat...and when you swat hands to get them to stop your teaching them to swat so either really spank (not when your angry and boy is that a hard one) or don't... the middle of the road stuff confuses kids...I spank but only when they do something that can hurt them the rest of the time the rule is "if you can't be nice you can't be awake" no little time outs its nap time and by 6 that's a big bad deal and I mean no just lying there sleep they stay til they sleep 4 at least and hour...also gives you time to cool down..there will be crying but that helps them go to sleep...good luck it doesn't get any easier the older they get you have to keep them in line or they push you over the edge that's their job...
2006-09-28 08:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere along the last few years 'hitting' seems to be an okay solution to quick anger. Stop her from hitting you and dont hit her.
Find a mature solution.
Learn to control your temper, take a deep breath and realize hitting only sends the wrong message and begets hitting.
Ask yourself and your daughter what else might both of you do when you feel anger. Parent's are also disrespectful to their children. Learning to apologize to them shows them respect as well. Kindness and finding good habits to anger and frustration instead of bad ones.
2006-09-28 07:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 yr. old daughter, I would of put in a choke hold and took her down,(naw just kidding). I think what you did was the right thing to do. If you hit her back then it just teaches them it's okay to hit. So by taking away something that she really love or likes to do will have more of an effect than hitting her or just put her in a choke hold.
2006-09-28 13:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sakura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that with her spanking her isn't the best idea buts its ok to feel mad
but taking away her TV was a great idea. make her realize when she does something wrong there is always a consequence right after. be consistent and be tough but also show her you love her
next time take her TV radio and friends away and say when you do something wrong there will be a punishment waiting for you
and dont get mad and dont show anger cus she is showing these same signs and she will see you mad and think that its OK for her to be mad
BUT ALWAYS BE CONSISTENT NO MATTER WHAT
AND TELL HER THAT YOU STILL LOVE HER
2006-09-28 07:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people are going to say spank the child and alot are going to say punishment
but with certain children spankings dont work and with other children punishment doesn't work
it depends on ur child and the situation
when i was a child and i did something wrong and my mother would spank my hand or butt i would look at her like she was crazy and i didnt care but when she took something from me it would really bother me and it helped but my brother needed spankings and alot of them until he understood who was in charge ........good luck
2006-09-28 09:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mo Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋