Here lately my hubby and I have not been having sex. He'll come home from work take a shower eat dinner and watch the news. After all is said and done he is in bed and asleep. We have been together for 9 years and we have to kids. I have done everything I can think of to get him in the mood to do anything he wants to do. But nothing seems to work...HELP!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-28 07:45:08 · 16 answers · asked by moonangel1121 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
throw some viagra in his dinner. just a little to start with. then after he has a hard on, go on with ur stuff, and dont give him any. dont have sex with him and see how he likes it......lol
2006-09-28 07:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all think about what you just wrote....he comes home and takes a shower.....does he have a habit of taking a shower after you and him do anything? or has he always come home and taken a shower and then eat and watch tv? sounds to me that there are obvious signs that there is something going on...have you noticed anything else is he sneaking to talk on the phone to anyone is he mysteriously deleting his call log on his phone check all of his stuff girl cause i have a husband and two kids and he started doing the same thing and i found out he was cheating on me. you gotta be careful though and not let him know you are suspisious....if he catches on you can get busted really easy.
2006-09-28 08:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by mla_forver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into an atmosphere with no distractions and have a heart to heart. Alot of men can get very stressed with worries from work, finances etc., We tend to feel like we have to handle everything on our own and not always tell the wife what is going on. When thats happening the stress just beats you down. Sex is about the last thing you have the energy for. Find out whats going on, let him unload,
2006-09-28 07:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find some way to get him talking. Try at different times and in different ways, but you need to tell him how you feel and why. He has to understand how his actions, or inaction, affects you. Remind him that being intimate helps you two be closer. It is usually the commonest cause that a man is depressed, but there can also be health issues he may be worried about, or has - and hasn't shared them with you or he is scared. It's hard sometimes for guys to talk, but you really need to do this is a nice, quiet way - don't confront him or get angry. Just let him know you are open to anything he has to say...
2006-09-28 09:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder why he is no longer interested in sex. Is he under a lot of stress? Does he have any health issues? Is he tired of me?
The best thing would be to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk about it. He needs to have a complete physical done to rule out any hormonal/physical reasons for the loss of interest in sex.
2006-09-28 07:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate, tell him you are a healthy woman and really miss sex and ask him if something is wrong, He really just sounds very tired, maybe he needs a physical from a doctor, if the doctor finds nothing you might consider counseling, I am married I cannot imagine never having sex, not a very fun ideal.
2006-09-28 07:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by sweet smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first instict would be that he is cheating. Is this habit our of the norm for him? Has he ALWAYS came home and showered right away, or can it be possible that he is washing away the 'scent'?
It could also be that there is something wrong at home. Lots of fights lately? Lots of arguing? Is there any nagging going on? Also, could it be financial problems? Is he stressed out???
There is either personal stressors...(financial, etc), marital issues....(things you do, say, etc. that really rub him the wrong way), or another woman.
Or atleast that is the way I look at it.
2006-09-28 07:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds wore out from working, and is probly going thru a small change. It will pass. If it doesn't than you need to let him know how you feel! Good luck.
2006-09-28 07:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he cheating? For a man not want sex usually he's cheating. I would do some research and see if this is why. Good luck!
2006-09-28 07:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am at a loss. His drive might be dropping due to his age, but its not normal. You could let him catch you "doing" yourself and see if he wants to finish you up. That would get me going.
2006-09-28 07:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Paka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋