As you can see I am a woman.
So, I'm not Gay.
I just wanted to say that because people so often think a question has to do with that person.
Let me say this also I am not a judgemental person, so say what is on ur mind and how you really feel.
I respect all people because we're people.
I really am just wondering. I'm a Christian and it says in the bible that being gay is an abomination!
I watched a show on 30 day, about Gay's and one guy said, "do you think I want to lose my family, friends, and be harrased everyday by choice? If I could chose to not be gay and live a normal life I would"
That line right there just really got to me and I can't think of a Gay person as a choice on lifestyle anymore. My boyfriend sticks to what the bible says, and how can you go wrong with that, but at the same time I still wonder if it is a choice or not. Or is it a choice for some and not for othere?
I am open to all opinions.
Thanks and God Bless
2006-09-28 07:44:02 · 33 answers · asked by lamikashi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know gay women are known as lesbians, however I was just stating that I an a strain women in a strait relationship.
2006-09-28 08:29:16 · update #1
I know gay women are known as lesbians, however I was just stating that I am a strait women in a strait relationship.
2006-09-28 08:29:52 · update #2
Medical Research has shown that the brain chemistry in gay people is different. You are born with the inclination to like people of a certain gender. If you are born with the "gay brain chemistry" and are true to your feelings, and act on them, then you are gay and live a gay life. Some people are born with the "gay brain chemistry" but fight those feelings and decide to remain celibate, others even get married to a person of the opposite sex in an effort to live a straight life. Whether it makes them happy or not, I don't know. So being gay, is one thing but not necessarily mean you will live life as a gay person. But just because you decide to stay celibate (or to have sex with people you are not attracted to) does not make you straight if you still feel attracted to the same sex, or fantasize about it, get aroused by same sex, etc...then one is still GAY. Some people feel attacted to both genders, and they make a choice. They may marry and have children but still get sexually aroused by the same sex. I would say they are still Gay, just opting the straight lifestyle. I hope this helps...
2006-09-28 08:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lamikashi,
No, it is not a choice to be gay or lesbian. It is very true that if a choice could be made, most gays would rather be straight because that implies a less problematic life.
If you're really interested about the theories about why homosexuality exists, try reading The Human Genome and Nature Via Nurture, both books that report many interesting findings of the decoding of the human genome (Both by Matt Ridley, scientist and journalist.) There are section, especially in the second book, where some of these things are explained. Not that everything is clear on how it happens, but as a gay man, I found I could relate to those explanations, which indirectly made things clearer about myself.
Even though I was raised with a religion that is officially against homosexuality, I was able to reconcile God with the way I am, exactly because I know I didn't choose to be this way. The basis for what I am today was laid in the combination of the genes from my parents and the environment (starting from my mother's womb) in which I developed.
So, as of today, I don't regret what my evolution has made me. Throughout my life I have made the effort of being honest with myself, with the people in my community and with God. More than that I cannot do, and God is happy with me the way I am.
2006-09-29 10:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by B52287 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a choice, they made a choice to have enough sex to find what they really like and stuck with that. The Bible says sex before marrige is wrong. Everything the Bible says is wrong ends up having good reasons for it in the end. There are people who are into incest. Would you march in the incest pride parade? Or the pedophilia pride parade? Maybe the former given enough time but not the latter. Sex before marriage is wrong. It gave us stds, abortions, rape, incest, molestation. I'm sure pedopiles can't help what they feel, somewhere along the line they couldn't help but do that. Check the site, it's great. It actually had something I didn't think of. The part about "When a person continues in sin and disbelief, the Bible tells us that God “gives them over” to even more wicked and depraved sin in order to show them the futility and hopelessness of life apart from God. 1 Corinthians 6:9 proclaims that homosexual “offenders” will not inherit the kingdom of God." quoted from the site.
2006-09-30 02:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a choice, but understand many choose this innocently. Many have an experience when they were small, like 3,4,5 or 6 and forget the incident but they have formed a crush on the same gender. Most do this before they understand what being a homosexual is. Even if a child learns that it is bad to be a homosexual, the power of attraction leads a child often, and as an adult there are some things just to hard to put away. Sexual attraction is one of those things.
We may help some children understand that a gender nonconformity does not mean the same thing as homosexuality, and it is ok to be as they are and they could get treatment for adjustments as they grow with a gender nonconformity. This might help some children not choose to be homosexual innocently . Parents need to understand they are separate issues as well. Even today the studies are saying that most children with a gender nonconformity will be gay, but I say that it is not a pre requisite to being gay, but lack of knowledge and treatment is why many will become gay.
Heterosexual is a choice as well, did you know you chose to be a heterosexual ? Did you forget when you innocently made the choice?
2006-09-28 10:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, being a woman doesn't mean you can't be "gay": you can still be a lesbian.
Interestingly enough, I can't find anywhere in the Bible that specifically condemns homosexual women; Leviticus lists a number of things MEN shouldn't do, including "lay with another man." But it doesn't say women shouldn't lay with other women... an interesting loophole to debate in your next Bible study group.
Personally I think being gay is no more a choice than loving cats instead of dogs or chocolate more than vanilla. My best friend is an actress since her earliest day just like I am a bookworm; is this a "choice" we made consciously, or is it something that we were meant to be? Certainly you can CHOOSE to hide or overcome or just not do certain things, just as you can choose to encourage or pursue them... but who's to say how the urge got there in the first place?
When in doubt about specific rules or details in the Bible, go back to the Commandmants. Does being gay go against the essence of any of these?
thansk for being open-minded and making an effort to understand other people!
2006-09-28 07:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe people are born that way - sort of a birth defect. You can usually look at a man or woman and see that they have too many of the wrong genes (or whatever it is). I think scientists have proved that they have a bit of a different makeup than straight people. Also, I knew a man who was gay and wanted so badly to be straight, but just couldn't handle it. He said he felt an emptiness in his very soul. However, some people are not born that way and choose that lifestyle because they are immoral. I don't know whether I'm right or wrong, it's just the way I feel.
2006-09-28 07:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it could be both. Some are born that way and some choose the lifestyle. My mom was married to my dad and I have 2 sisters. I think she got fed up with men and just was not attracted to them anymore. She met a friend of hers which she got really close with. She enjoyed that lifestyle and she is now gay. I love her and never felt any different about her. I told her if she's happy, I'm happy.
2006-09-28 07:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Adri 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Born
2006-09-28 07:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does being a woman mean you're not gay? Gay women are known as lesbians but they are still gay women. I would say, from my point of view being gay, that I was born this way. I think there are some people who do choose but it's a small percentage of the gay population.
2006-09-28 07:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by willow_raevynwood 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Personally this is my thought on the situation....
I think that when a women is pregnant and she wish and hopes for her baby to be a girl and it's aready developed into boy and she goes the entire nine months not knowing the sex of the child I think her hopes and prayes are answered through the baby. That's why the brain chemistry make upis different.
But if a child was molested by the same sex over a long period of time they run the risk of being a guy person i Think..
2006-09-28 08:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia T 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋