I’m 15year old dating this really great Guy. I Love him to death and I would do any thing 4 him. But here l8ly we’ve been fighting like cats and dogs. We feel like our relationship is slowly but surly diminishing. But neither one of us wants to let it go. We're not all ways fighting. Actually we have more good days than we do bad. But when we do fight, the fights are BIG! Iv Broke up w/ him once (for 10min) and threatened to just be friends twice. We Love each other to death and it’s obvious. We have a wedding date set and every thing! Life is great other than the fighting. What should I do? I want every thing fixed, I just don’t know how or where to start.
2006-09-28 07:31:22 · 11 answers · asked by Samantha V. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know at your age it seems like your first love will last forever. Unfortunately, or fortunately as the case may be, that really doesn't happen often. You are young and need to experience lots of relationships before you decide who to marry. If you and this guy were meant to be, you will be together eventually no matter what. If you are not happy with the fighting, maybe it is time to take a break and see what happens. That means a true break, however, and not one of these off today on again tomorrow breaks. If he truely is a great guy and you have more good times than bad, you will probably end up back together. Great guys are hard to find and you might find that you come running back to each other in a short time. Every relationship has its ups and downs and certainly fighting is part of it. If you decide to stay togehter, you need to learn to work things out productively without fighting. Some of that will come with age and maturity. Perhaps you can get someone you both trust, preferably an adult, to help mediate disagreements? Anyway, good luck to you and remember that by the time you are 20, this might look a whole lot different. Heck, even by the time you are 16! :-)
2006-09-28 07:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, your 15, already have a wedding date set, yet you can't even date on a regular basis without major fights?
UM, hate to break it to you kiddo, sounds like your still a bit immature for any of it, starting with the dating. Try enjoying your teen years first, you'll be a grownup the rest of your life, a teen only for a very short time. All the decisions you make in your teen years will stay with you your whole adult life. Make sure you don't make any regrets.
2006-09-28 14:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by hisladytish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can recognize a disagreement before the fighting even starts. If you instead of getting angry and fighting, talk calmly and responsibly to eachother and try to understand where eachother are coming from without judging or blaming, or accussing then your relationship has a chance of being very healthy, and that wedding that you *BOTH* want together is going to be more possible and really happen. BLessed be.
2006-09-28 14:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll love will pull you both through if it's meant to be. Your really young though, you still have so much more to look forward too. Please. a piece of advise. Don't get married anytime soon. I was just like you, I was 15 with my first love, I though were would marry. We also argued all the time it seemed like. We would break up for a night , a few minutes, and even a couple of days one time. We lasted 7 yrs, and it all ended. I am glad we never married or had children.
2006-09-28 14:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check this out i am a 16 year old in a lovely relationship we have been together for 5 months.................why don't you other sit down a talk see why you all fight and try to avoid those situations......and sometimes fighting is just a sign of love don't give up so quick
2006-09-28 14:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Miss.PatrickWhite_onFiYa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 - WAY to soon to be thinking about marriage (is that what is keeping you together?)
#2 - you need to figure out WHY you are consistently fighting - it is not a sign of a healthy relationship. If you can't figure it out, then you need to break-up permenantly and date other guys. You will not be happy with constant fighting - YOU DESERVE BETTER!
2006-09-28 14:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jesus girl your only fifteen but if he's that special sit down talk if you cant do that without fighting then spend a few days or even a week apart they do say absent makes the heart grow fonder if that doesnt work find someone else its obviously not meant to be
2006-09-28 14:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love each other then you should be racing to say your sorry and not ever looking to win the fight. Being in love requires being selfless.
2006-09-28 14:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by mac5doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to get serious with anyone. Dump him and play the field. Enjoy your youth.
2006-09-28 14:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rmb2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pstpone this wedding for one year. if things don,t get a lot better by then, postpone it indefinately. wise up now!
2006-09-28 14:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by houdini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋