Ok, my mama is not coming to my wedding for various reasons. Now, my brother won't come to my wedding if my dad is going to be there. He hates him. I HOPE my dad is coming. So far, he hasnt said much. I have a hillbilly, always fighting family. I live in another town, and got away from them so they wouldnt bring me down. My mama isnt coming cuz she doesnt like who I'm with(she has no reason to, she just doesnt like anyone) and my brother just cant stand to be around my dad. I just hope that if my dad comes, that he isnt drunk, or high and can walk me down the isle. If my brother comes, I at least know he will behave himself, as long as my dad doesnt talk to him. My brother will be 19 next year when I get married.
2006-09-28 07:31:02 · 15 answers · asked by nonamegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't. You can express to them individually that you'd like for them to be there, but they have to make that decision themselves. You should not bear that. That is a decision they will make and have to live with at the end of the day. This day should be about you. If they can't step outside of their selfishness to support you for this wonderful celebration, then you don't need either of them. Your mother, too.
2006-09-28 07:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy invite all and let them know this is your day. 1 Your dad should be there to give you away. 2 your mom should be there for being your mom and best friend and 3 your brother should be there cause he is blood and will need something in a few years when he wants to get off his feet.
2006-09-28 07:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by RIchard H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't choose, tell your mom, your dad and your brother that it is your wedding and you expect them all to be there, you expect them all to get along for your one special day, be sober and nice. Let them know that if the do not show up, you will not show up to any event that they want you at. Also let them know that if they show up and cause a scene and ruin your day, that you will show up and embarrass them at the worst possible time. Take control and tell them what you expect from them. This is a big day for you and you deserve your family around you and they should understand that...Good Luck, sounds like you will need it...
2006-09-28 07:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your brother your not sure if your dad will be there. Because you don't know for sure. If your brother loves you, he should attend anyways, just to support you. He can even go for a little while then leave if he wants too. Just tell him that you would really love it if he came to support you. Good luck, and I hope you get everything you want. That's hard to deal with.
2006-09-28 07:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by Susa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, u have to to tell ur family indvidually that you would really like them all to be there on your special wedding day, and that if they all didnt come u would be dissapointed in them and that u want to have their support, secondly, if one of them doesnt show up just move on if they dont want to be there then their not gonna be there, during the wedding make sure that their separatly (diffrent tables and everything) and after the wedding thank them for coming to let them know they made the right decision that way they feel better good luck though!congrats on ur engagment
2006-09-28 07:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep Brother.
2006-09-28 07:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by pizza1512 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
elope to las vegas .....enjoy yourselves and dont invite any of your family......if they cant put aside their differences for the one day to give you a 'perfect wedding day' then they dont need to be there. my wife and i flew to vegas, spent 5 days in the rio suites and got a rental car for the entire trip for 850.00. we ended up spending close to 1800.00 by the time we came back(no, we didnt gamble)my wife had never been west of missouri so i took her to death valley california, zion utah, we did the dam lake tour and checked out the city. got married at one of the many chapels. had a great time. was worth every penny and didnt miss anyone back home.
2006-09-28 07:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by fn_49@hotmail.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go off and get married ,like my son did, no one there, he married a girl from china I had not met and it was in usa we live in england, uk and all is ok, u have your life to live tell then to get over it, go get married am 72 yrs of age and most people dont even get married , get on with your life, they will come round eventually if not , it is their problem, Best of luck to you in your marriage, go live your life my darling , English grand mother Liz
2006-09-28 07:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by two_spirits_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of your family should be there no matter how they feel just to support you for 1 day! It is your day not theirs so they need to get over what issues they have.
2006-09-28 07:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
INVITE your brother. TELL YOUR DAD you changed the wedding date . DONT INVITE troubles on that happy day. MY parents are the same. MY GRANNY WAS THE PEACE MAKER. INVITE peace makers.
2006-09-28 07:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋