How can I get my husband to be more romantic?

Question

My husband has never even sent me flowers (he brought some home like twice), never had a romantic dinner, and the proposal sucked so bad! We've been together 3 years and we don't have any "special" moments to remember! On our wedding night we had sex with the TV on-at our apartment....whooooo exciting :(
I have tried telling him many times and he says he understands and he will try harder, but it never happens! I feel like I am getting jipped! I know he was like this when i married him, but I thought at least our "wedding night" would be special-ha! Any advise?

Answer 1

It's all your fault.You knew what you were getting when you married him.All of us men are born jerks to varying degrees.The older we get the bigger jerks we become.
You know why we're this way?Because you women let us.You let men treat you like crap.You fall in love with the thought of being in love.
This is coming from one of the better husbands a woman could have.My wife and I have been together 20 yrs.I still open her car door,buy her flowers whenever hers start to wilt,and workout to keep in shape.But I'm still a jerk sometimes.
Face the facts,your husband is only going to get worse!Either accept what you chose or start looking elsewhere.

Answer 2

I'm sorry. It is a little hard making a better first impression, but there was a an ad on TV a few years ago that may have an idea for you. Wife answers the phone, husband is on the way home, "How about you put on your running shoes and sweats on and we go jogging when I get home." So the suggestive snippets come, she's pulling up her "socks" and it was hosery, she's putting on her "sweats" and it was a silk slip, followed by an elegant dress, then come the high-heeled patent leather "running shoes". That was followed by a good spray of perfume as husband opens the door and his face melts as he utters a thoughtful, "Oh, my."

Another option is have the candles and best dishes on the table and you in your elegant best when he comes home for supper, "I have a choice, you can clean up and put on a suit for what I have on the stove, or I'll put on something grungy and we'll eat the TV dinners that are in the microwave, which is it?"

Both involve effort on your part, but he obviously isn't going to get where you are wanting without some coaching, so coach.

Answer 3

I could almost swear that you and I are married to the same man...hehehe.
Seriously,my husband doesn't have a romantic bone in his body.The first gift he ever bought me was this hideous pink shirt with purple sleeves that he'd gotten at some hunting and tackle shop.Of course,I told him I loved it,but I couldn't tell you now where it is.I never wore it,and thankfully he's never said anything about it.We've been married 20 years now,and I can count on one hand how many times I ever got flowers from him,or anything that had romance involved.I gave up long ago hoping for romance from him,but it's the little things he does for me that makes up for all that.When he buys me jewelry.for instance.He doesn't do it with a lot of pomp and flair.He doesn't even do it as a surprise.He just simply comes home and says"Here's something for you." Or he'll make dinner for us sometimes or help clean the house.He'll do the grocery shopping for me if I don't feel like going out.Something as simple as picking up my feminine needs at the store.Simple little things like that shows his love for me,and his own way of being somewhat romantic.I am happy with his own brand of romance and showing his love and appreciation for me.

Answer 4

Maybe you need to take matter into your own hands. Plan your own romantic get-away. Let him know how you expect him to dress and act. Take a weekend to go out of town and stay at a nice resort or hotel. Eat in a fancy restaurant and then go to a club or movie. When you return to the hotel have your dream wedding night. Do not allow him to turn on the TV the entire weekend. Show him how romance can be between a man and a woman.

Answer 5

Most guys have no clue on what is romantic. It not that guys think in dime store love novels. It seems to me that you allowed him to be unromantic and he doesn't know any better. So take hold and teach him what you would like to see and feel and take the lead. In that way he will hopefully learn and try to please you even more. But a word of warning, don't bruise the male ego if you properly teach him and not lecture or belittle him it should work.

Answer 6

Oh boy, your situation sounds so similar to mine. Me and my husband have also been together for 3 years and he seldom buys me presents or does romantic things like write poetry, arranges candle light dinners or anything like that. We sometimes watch romantic movies together but he really doesn't enjoy them. Try and look at what your husband does do that makes you happy. Yes, it is upsetting and I, just like you, have also tried to ask my hubby to be more romantic but it just doesn't work because I seriously don't think he knows how. BUT... one thing he is very good at is remembering important dates like anniversaries, and Birthdays and that is a big thing to me. He is also really good at choosing nice restaurants where we sometimes go to eat out. So try and think of what your husband IS good at, and that may make you feel better. God bless!

Answer 7

IF U FIGURE IT OUT LET ME NO. I TELL MINE AND HE SAYS I AM TO ROMANTIC (YEAH RIGHT) NOW HE HAS BROUGHT ME FLOWERS HERE AND THERE I HEAR YA THAT'S JUST NOT ENOUGH. I TRY TO TELL HIM SAYING HAY U WANT THIS? IS NOT ROMANCE AND THE T.V. ON I HATE THAT NOW HE TURNS IT OFF BUT RIGHT AFTER IT'S BACK ON OH YEAH THAT'S JUST SO ROMANTIC RIGHT? WE EVEN WENT AWAY FOR A WEEKEND JUST US GOT A NICE HOTEL ROOM WE WENT IN THE HOT TUB THEN FEEL ASLEEP WATCHING T.V. NO NOTHING I WAS SO DISAPPOINTED. I WISH U BETTER LUCK THEN ME.

Answer 8

maybe you need to show him was a romantic night is . then afterword you say i wont something like this 12 time a year. and i do love flower and candy and small gift two..


Good luck

Answer 9

Leave him. Really. why stay somewhere with someone and you are not happy. you are wasting precious years. i left my husband and i am now dating the man i met while i was engaged to my husband. so you see how the cookie crumbles. and fyi this was in 1994. yup i have come along way baby. (smile)

Answer 10

As what you said "I know he was like this when i married him" just accept that he is like this, love him more and you will find that he is romantic !!