I'm madly in love with my girlfriend, so much that I intend on marrying her. However, we don't want to rush into marriage. I am moving out soo and need a roommate. I would love for it to be here. I want to be with her whenever I can and have her in my arms at night. Is that wrong? All the research I've done says it is bad for a relationship to move in with each other before you get married. Is that true?
2006-09-28 07:19:36 · 20 answers · asked by greyamani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why not get married first. Make it real.
If it's because you want a big wedding and cant afford it, then make an inexpensive civil ceremony and save up together for a nice wedding and redo's of your I do's. It might be more satisfying and romantic. It's the idea that living together is a 'temporary' thing and everyone respects marriage more over living together.
2006-09-28 07:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where they did that research or how old it is, but living together is the best way to find out if you are compatible. All the couples that I know that lived together before getting married and still got married are still together. You learn what you can live with and what you can't. It is better to discover that you can't live with someone before having kids and investing a lot of time and money into a relationship. It is far better to depart as friends with differences, then as ex'es who probably hate each other and not to mention the devastating result it has on the kids and families.
2006-09-28 07:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have been living together since the day we met...and now we have a little kid...I dont think it is it a bad thing to live together before marriage....if anything it has helped us see who we really are.....all the flaws and all of the good.....Im sure that is not true for everyone some people are better being apart until they are married....it all depends on the people and the relationship...Good luck
2006-09-28 07:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by juliaguliasoccer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is bad to live together before marriage. I don't think it will ruin your relationship. My man and I are living together now, and may decide to marry in the future. Of course, both of us has already been married before, and we will not have children this late in life, so there is no reason for us to rush into marriage. If I do marry again I will marry him. He is the love of my life and my true soul mate.
2006-09-28 07:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think now days that is a great thing to do. It is basically just like being married without the papers and you will get accustomed with each others living means. Get used to each other and work together on how to live with each other. That way you don't just get married and move in and that is it. Then you guys have your fights and what now all along with being married. I did it and I think it is the greatest things since sliced bread!!!
Good luck, and I think you are making a good choice.
2006-09-28 07:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard the same research, however, I don't believe it. I think that living with someone before marriage allows both of you to get to know eachother's habits, etc. Insted of being thrown together and forced to co-exist simply because you are married, living together before marriage also allows the both of you to figure out what works and what doesn't. I think it promotes a healthier relationship.
2006-09-28 07:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so far from the truth. It is better to move in and get to REALLY know each other and your little habbits. You may find things about her like how she may not close the tooth paste top when she is done that might drive you crazy. If you can live with her for at least 6 months and be happy then it is ok to get married.
2006-09-28 07:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by Evolrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in "research" who are they anyway? I lived with my ex husband for 5 years and had the best relationship with him, got to know him, his habits, the things that he liked and so on. What made it bad was that we got married! Now he is my ex. So I think living together before marriage is a good thing, for me marrying wasn't so good. But Good luck!!! Wish you the best.
2006-09-28 07:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by mslo25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus people are going to tell you that is a sin.
Lucky for you i am not a Christian.
It helps in that you get an idea of what marriage will be like.
If you really want to marry her it will not matter.
I say go for it. This way you could have sex whenever you want.
Anyway, you love her, live with her.
If you can't stand it when it happens, then marrying her may not be the best idea cause she will irritate you for the rest of your life.
2006-09-28 07:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is. Me and my husband moved in together before we were married. I think it was a good thing. I mean if you don't how are you going to know if you can stand living together after you are married?
2006-09-28 07:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by goldenrose3497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋