Which Method is best?! Someone HELP PLEASE?

Question

I am having problems with which birth control method I should use.

I have used the pill (Ortho Tricyclen) and it works… but I gain SO much weight (my weigh is 145-155 and I gain up to 175-180 lbs.), I am more moody, I am unable to get “wet”, lower sex drive, get depressed, constant yeast/urinary infections, and I plain old hate myself when I am on it. I understand that these are the side affects but I don’t want to get back on it if that’s how my life is going to be. I have been off the pill since July and I am SO much happier without it. I don’t get infections, my weight is normal, and its easier to get happy and “wet”.

Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do? What do you suggest?

I have been looking in to other forms of contraceptive… but the all seem to have the same side effects… nuvo-ring has same side effects, but less extreme. But the I deal of the ring.. just kinda creeps me out.

Some one help please! (even if someone has the same answer as you I would be interested in your experience)

Thank you to the men that have replied, But I need a woman’s point of view. I understand that absentness is the best way to go… but I am married… sex is going to happen. I am not trying to prevent STD’s I am trying to prevent a pregnancy.

My husband won’t wear condoms... and he doesn’t care if I get pregnant, he ready for a baby. And says if I want to prevent a child... its on me.

Answer 1

I've experienced all of the same side effects you did, & I agree, I hate to be me when I'm on the Pill! Have you looked into any of the other "barrier methods"? The sponge is supposed to be back on the market & it doesn't affect your hormones. Also, you could try the ky jelly with spermicide added. I still have to be on the Pill to regulate my periods - I had a tubal banding done in 2002 so it's not for pregnancy prevention. If your partner uses a condom & you use the spermicide, that should be sufficient to keep you from getting pregnant. Also, what about an IUD? They are much safer now & no hormones - & think better than nuvo-ring, too. They do make the ones that get inserted into the skin of your upper arm but I wouldn't want to go that route - that or the shots.
If your periods are v e r y regular, you could go with the rhythym method. Or pulling out. But those are not guaranteed!!! What about Yasmin? It's a low-dose & I did not experience as many terrible side effects - & it did the job of controlling my periods.
There ARE options, you just have to keep trying. Good luck!!!

Answer 2

I'm a guy, but ironically know what you are talking about. My wife went on injectables (Depo Provera) about two months after giving birth. Then, I was telling myself, "Jackpot! I don't have to wear condoms anymore and we can do it anytime."

Unfortunately, that is the dirty secret behind women's contraceptives. It has all the side effects that you mentioned and two more that we didn't foresee:

1. First, my wife got really depressed because of the hormone imbalance. She wasn't diagnosed of depression until two years later, but it was hell going through those years.

2. Remember about doing it often? Forget it. Of the year she went on the pill, I could count how many times we had sex ... ON ONE HAND !! Even if she was aroused, she was dry, so no go. There was a time that we didn't make love for four months !!

Anyway, the best way is still to use condoms. It may be a little bit uncomfortable for us guys, but if we love you, we'll suck it up. The only way you could have unprotected sex is when you have your regular periods, if the guy isn't too squeamish about it.

So, to sum: First, CONDOMS. Next, DURING PERIODS. I do hope this helps and if you could do me a favor, pass it around.

Answer 3

Honey, your husbands thing about preventing pregnancy is on you, is the cave man thinking. He has just as much responsibility in trying to prevent you from becoming pregnant before you are ready as you do. I HAD a husband with the same attitude. This is the same man who hasn't seen my daughter (his also) in four years. I wanted my daughter. But, when I was advised not to try for another, due to an addition of another medication to control my epilespy, and since the pill was not effective because of my medicines, we had to find another way. He said it was my responsibility. He didn't want to use condoms. So, I let him know he wasn't getting any without one. He gave in within a couple of days. I had them there in advance, knowing he would rather wear a condom than not get any at all! The divorce wasn't about the sex, it was his way of thinking that everything was my responsibility, the house cleaning, the baby, the cooking, grocery shopping, etc. Sex was the only positive in our relationship at the end of it.

Answer 4

Have you tried other brands of pill? Women often find that a particular brand just doesn't suit them and it takes a few different brands to find one that really does suit them. There could be a pill out there that suits you better so I suggest trying a few different brands before fully dismissing the idea.
My sister has the depo-provera injection, which is an injection which is given every 3 months, so you don't need to remember to take a pill everyday. She has had no considerable side effects from this form of contraception and she has been on it well over a year now, so it might be worth looking into if you do not want to take any form of pill.

Answer 5

I had every one of those problems when I was on the pill. They're normal side effects, however incredibly unpleasant.

You could try lower dose pills. They tend to have less severe side effects, but you may also have break through bleeding.

I have an IUD, which I love. Good for 5 years, nothing to think about. Very little hormones, so very few side effects. It hurts when they put it in, especially if you've never had a child. But it's completely worth the pain.

Although it sounds like you're considering a baby, so you might not want something that lasts so long. You can have it removed at any time, but I wouldn't go through putting it in if you're going to remove it in less than a year.

Answer 6

I've never had problems with the pills I use, but there's always the trusted condom. Just make sure you've got some around just in case you need them. This will prevent pregnancy and STDs.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

A diaphragm works good.
I used to use it but haven't needed to since I started using the pill for medical reasons.
Yes, I get the same reactions you described from the pill. Yes, I hate the reactions but I have learned to live with them.

Answer 9

The best method is not to have sex until marriage. Then you and your other half will come to the best method... until then a condom... that way you will not gain weigh. and stay safe.

Answer 10

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