I caught him cheating on me and now I just want to get even with him is it alright to just sleep with as many men as I can to keep the thought of him and another women out of my head? Will I ever get over it?
2006-09-28 06:58:50 · 73 answers · asked by Martha L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him. Why put yourself through this. Find someone that will really love you.
2006-09-28 07:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by ELL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs do not make it RIGHT~ U know.. If you sleep with another its not really helping you it makes u rehash what he did cause this is something that u are not use to doing. Time will heel all wounds. U may even need to separate and what u do once you separate is totally up to u. But do not do what the MULE did to you. Be bigger than him~ I know when u close your eyes u see him and her. I know when he says he loves u it makes your skin crawl. I know when he touches u it feels like you want to HURL~ Sit back to see if he is still cheating. Grab a lowjack or a device to place on the car to see his whereabouts since he broke the trust and he is making you do extra stuff to keep a hold on your man. But if he continues to cheat with the same chick. U can get him for Adultry~ Shoot and I am sure he will get mad if you get even.. Peep this sex sells if you got a camera and a computer than u in business. I am sure he will be heated to know you showing his goods to everyone. And u have to tell him, this buys me things u have no clue about.. PEACE of MIND~ (lol)
2006-09-28 07:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by HotPucci220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no matter how many men you sleep with, you will still come out a W H O R E. So dont do that, be more dignified in your resolve. Drop the ultimatum on him, stop it or leave. Love can suck sometimes but what price are you willing to pay to keep him in your life?
Spare yourself, and yes it is sexist but that is the way it is. I never condone an eye for an eye, otherwise I would be in deep
S H I A T E.
Farewell and good luck no woman deserves that,
A guy.
2006-09-28 07:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tickle Me Xtreme!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really admire cheaters that much, that you would like to become one? You would be much better off immediately filing for a divorce, without his knowledge that you are going to do so, and going after him for everything you can get. He needs a wake up call, and the time it will take for the divorce to take effect will be plenty of time for him to prove to you the marriage is worth saving. If he proves it, then you don't have to go through with the divorce, otherwise you will be well on your way to ending a dead relationship, that will only get worse, not better.
Yes, you could cheat on him, but that would make you no better than he is. Plus, if he gets mad, and decides to get a divorce over it, he can use that against you., because unlike him, you would probably not try to hide it as much. Your only other option would be to remain with him, and have an open style relationship.
2006-09-28 07:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right, but if you feel like this will make you feel better to "get him back," then go for it. In my opinion, it'll only make matters worse. You need to file for divorce and stop putting up with his sh!t! He's worthless, and you need to quit putting up with it. Don't stay cause it's convenient, for the money, for the kids, etc. IF YOU'RE NOT HAPPY, GET OUT!!! He's not gonna stop, there's no sense in you wasting your time with this man who obviously doesn't love, care, or respect you. He's a jerk, a55hole, liar, cheater, etc. You're worth more than what he's giving you credit for. By staying, you're only giving him the satisfaction of knowing you'll be home waiting for him no matter what he does! If you play his game with him, it'll only cause a bigger fight than what's going on now...things can never work between the two of you unless you decide to have an "open marriage" where it doesn't matter who you two sleep with but you can go home to each other. I don't see that happening here. Good luck and I'm sorry to hear about another marriage going down the drain cause someone can't keep their thing in their pants! Some people, mmmph!
2006-09-28 07:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it a good way to get him doing that to you out of your head? No.. Not at all. It'll just leave you with crabs. Or worse. Look: he cheated on you. That's it. It'd be done if I were you. Were you smart you'd leave his ***. I know it's easier said than done. It's the way it needs to be though. This is the first time that he cheated on you? (as far as you know anyways) This won't be the last. You want revenge on him? Let him go off with the girl he cheated on you with/leave him. That'll get him back in a way that you going 'slut' ever would. The best thing is that you won't regret it later like you would if you went and slept around.
2006-09-28 07:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, honey. Get real. Aids and hiv are still out there. Question is why are you still there?? What ARE you thinking????Marriage is: Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust. Don't see any of these in your relationship. You sure don't have a marriage, sweetie.,,, All you have for him is resentment, and so again, why are you still there????
In your place, I'd file, and get out before I caught the big one -- AIDS..... And yes, you'll get over this. If you're a nice lady, there are just tons of nice men waiting to find you. Google: "dating sites".. Yahoo, Match.com etc., use the usual amount of caution when meeting anyone -- there are nut cases just like those sitting next to you in church. Do a person search, they will do one on you. Check out the site: "dontdatehimgirl.com" as well.
2006-09-28 07:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that really the answer? Don't you want a commited relationship not a relationship full of revenge and retaliation, I would give him an alternative either counseling or it is over. You can find a male that will love you and be faithful, the other choice is a continually punishing situation everybody gets hurt, I know my parents played the same game.
2006-09-28 07:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by sweet smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to get over the pain that someone you love caused. Try putting your focus elsewhere instead of degrading yourself which would only make you feel worse, not better. If he has cheated on you more than once, he is not only telling you but showing you that he does not take your marriage serious by his actions. It's time to take back control over your own life and stop letting this man continue to hurt you. Good luck.
2006-09-28 07:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well men always say what a man fame is a woman shame meaning a man can have many women as they like but when a woman does they say she hore,if i was in ur place of course i would start doing the same thing just for fun but please don't have sex with them, just date men. and the only way u can keep the thought of him and another woman out of your head make urself occupy do things with ur girlfriend have fun go to night club or something.
2006-09-28 07:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by brownsugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this....if you cheated what is the point of being married???? I know he cheated and the was not right but getting back at him is not the way to go....I say you talk to him about it and try to work it out...if he really really loves you and wants to be with you then he will work on things and stop cheating...you need to find out how he feels about you guys being together and staying married if he is not willing to work it out then you really have no choice....it will be hard but how can you spend the rest of you life with someone who doesn't love you in return??? You have to be the bigger more mature person in this situation
2006-09-28 07:04:22 · answer #11 · answered by juliaguliasoccer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋