I love my ex husband dearly. We are actually thinking about getting married again. I love him. I'm pregnant. Yes, it's his. I love how he loves our two other children. He is the perfect man. One problem. I hate to have sex with him. I don't know if it's him or not. I just dislike him touching me in any sexual way. I feel like I am being raped. Sometimes I cry while we are still trying to do it & he has to stop. All I tell him is that it hurts. Other times I just lay there & pray for it to be over. I don't know what to do. I wish I could like it & be normal. I am second thinking this marriage because of this. Any advice?
2006-09-28 06:54:56 · 12 answers · asked by IMHO 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When we were apart during the divorce I was with someone else & I was fine. I really enjoyed the sex with none of what I am going through now. So it seems to just be him.
2006-09-28 06:56:25 · update #1
No he is very gentle with me.
2006-09-28 07:01:00 · update #2
I was like that with my ex.... i loved him so much, he was a super fantastic guy, everything a women would want.... but the sex part... i was repulsed.... we broke up because of this several times, i never told him of course.... and then i missed and loved him so i kept going back.... but after a while i realized that he didnt deserve this... so its been 1 year and a half now, i havent called him, we havent seen each other....
I tryed getting over that sex part... i tryed to enjoy it, only if i would have a few drinks i liked it, and still to this day, i dont know what he was doing wrong.... i guess it will remain a mistery....
2006-09-28 07:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he too rough? Does he treat you like he is raping you? Has he raped you in the past? These are all questions that come to mind.
If you both love each other, then tell him the truth to why you cry during sex. AND I would suggest some counselling first for you and then as a couple.
2006-09-28 13:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rethink remarrying this man. Have you been honest with your ex about your feelings about this matter. If not, do so. Maybe the two of you can seek some counseling together if the both of you want the marriage that badly. Good luck.
2006-09-28 14:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry him again. You will have the same problem as before and you will have put your kids through another divorce. You might want to seek some counseling. Good luck hun!
2006-09-28 14:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by whiskey_girl0814 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a weirdo. How can a man be "perfect" if you hate having sex with him? Hate to break it to you, but sex is a huge part of a relationship. Perhaps he's not so "perfect" after all. Keep looking.
2006-09-28 14:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get remarried to your ex husband then. Something is psychologically and possibly physically wrong.
You can't live that way for the rest of your life.
2006-09-28 13:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have psychological issues. Seek advice through a counselor. you may have been abused as a child by a male figure in your life.
2006-09-28 14:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off get yourself a B.O.B. (Battery operated Boyfriend)
Then get yourself to a shrink as you need to work out your issues with a professional instead of asking for amateur help
2006-09-28 13:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to get married with the one you feel is raping you???
2006-09-28 14:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and with al of that you still getting married. get some help dear.
2006-09-28 13:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋