I've been married for 15yrs.my husband and I have known each other for 19.We've had our share of ups and downs needless to say more downs than ups.But for the most part we've been true to each other.With that being said I've never given him a reason to not trust me.And he relentlessly says to me that he doesn't trust anyone in his life from me to our kids etc.Now does that seem a little bit odd?I could see if I did something to warrant his untrust but to just flat out not trust I have a very serious issue with that.How is it possible to survive in a marriage where one person has no faith in you whatsoever?My husband is self-employed so his work takes him away from home alot.So I have to trust that he's being faithful to me when he's away on business.I just don't see why he can't do the same.Can anyone shed some light on this for me please?I'd greatly appreciate it.
2006-09-28 06:54:54 · 11 answers · asked by brooklyncrazysexycool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't believe he meant what he said....You have been together for 15yrs with ups and downs, so I am sure he has said many things to you that he did not mean. If you feel that he is lacking in other areas that are most important to you that may give you any indication that he is out there doing wrong, then maybe you really need to find out what is really going on with him....
2006-09-28 07:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may suffer from paranoia. I'm not trying to be funny. I am a nurse. It is an actual psychiatric condition. His brain chemistry may just be a little off. To worsen this, he has probably had some environmental influences too, meaning he has (like mostly ALL people) been duped, or hurt before by someone, and that will cause a person to withdraw and put that 'defense' up.
But really, it may be a psychiatric condition. Like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or Bipolar Disorder, or stuff like that. He probably would never get it checked out. Especially if he is functional and it doesn't negatively affect his everyday life.
That sucks for you though. I'm sorry.
2006-09-28 07:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we seem to have a lot in common I've been married for 15 yrs and my husband is also self-employed and for the most part we are happy with ups and downs, its very hard work(marriage) and no one warns you how much .Honesty, being open, and trust are just three big component's to a good marriage and for him to say he doesn't trust the kids and mostly you it seems to be a big problem. my husband cheated on me a few years back(I'm still working on getting over that) but before the truth came out he always accused me of cheating, every time we argued the trust factor came up as far as him not trusting me long story short it was him that couldn't be trusted and tried to flip it on me it was his own insecurities he had a problem with .Be careful and remember it takes two and if the loves still there on both sides you both have to work together good luck God bless you and your marriage
2006-09-28 15:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by dawnshawn1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow,that one hits home,ive been married fifteen years also,dated for five,no kids.
2006-09-28 07:19:51
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I drive a truck and i'm gone away sometimes,cheating runs rampant in my family and my wife always asks when will it be me
I've learned from being married for 15 years that if they say they don't trust you, then they are doing something that they not supposed to. I truly did not believe that my husband would ever cheat, not saying that yours is, but open your eyes, and ears. Take a step back from your relationship. They will leave you clues to what's going on in their lives, you just have to be willing to see them.
2006-09-28 07:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. if he really doesn't trust you and you can't deal with it, give him an ultimatum. He sounds a bit paranoid. is he distrustful because of that? Maybe he needs some psychological help. Good luck.
2006-09-28 07:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by when's my next vacation??? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your husband is doing something that the reason why he don't trust you, he's telling himself if i'm doing it who knows she can be doing it too.what u need to do is investigate on him paid somebody to watch his move cause not all business trip he's making mean he doing business.
2006-09-28 07:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by brownsugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women cheat so it makes sense. He is who he is. Let him be.
2006-09-28 08:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by the man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is pobably cheating on you so he thinks you would do the same to him. in my opinoin leave him him
2006-09-28 06:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by rangerider223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEEP CHILDHOOD FAMILY ISSUES.
2006-09-28 06:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋