This woman and I were seeing eachother for over a year. We've been back and forth with each other time and time again. Breaking up then going back out. I truly love this woman and really think she's my soul mate. We've had deep conversations about this and she says that she loves me, she knows how I feel about her. I hadn't spoken to her in a couple weeks, we work together and have email, but we haven't talked. Then last friday she was suggesting that we go out again. I told her that I've tried really hard to get over her and her saying this to me just makes me start all over again. Today, I told her that I can't do this anymore. Why does she go cold and then want to be with me again????
2006-09-28 06:53:13 · 10 answers · asked by woodersondylan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe she is scared of commitment or getting hurt? Ask her and find out.
2006-09-28 06:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she loves you as much as you love her. I'm talking from experience.
Her feelings for you aren't as strong as yours are for her. No matter what she says, her actions are speaking to you, Pay Attention.
She wants you because she knows your feelings for her will keep you there for her, but when she gets restless again, she will stray, and you will be hurt more than you thought you could be.
She doesn't feel as if you are HER soulmate, even though you feel she is yours.
She never will. I'm sorry to say it, but it's true. Don't hurt yourself again. Stay away.
I don't like being so negative. I'm usually a positive person, but if it was going to work, it would have already. I was in a relationship like this one for 8 years. I finally ended it because I was like her.
My best to you.
2006-09-28 14:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to decide if you are good enough to settle for.
Do you take her abuse or have a back bone?
Funny thing is the more back bone you have the more she will like you.
If she's not jumping into your arms I say move on because she may want to upgrade later to a rich/nice/sexier/etc... door mat.
2006-09-28 14:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her back-up plan and her stepping mat.
Is this all the self steem that you got? A soulmate will always love you and be devoted to you...not dump you everytime that the grass starts to look greener on the other side.
Good luck
2006-09-28 13:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you need help with? Today you told her you cant do "this" anymore.. there's your decision.
She probably goes cold then wants you cause she's seeing the pro's and con's. cold is when she sees the flaws.. when she wants you is when it's fresh in her mind all the things she misses about you.
2006-09-28 14:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by senacia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably isn't ready for all that...men are not the only ones afraid to dive into a heated relationship.
2006-09-28 14:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's not really sure she wants to settle down yet. I'd look elsewhere.
2006-09-28 13:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there is some one else on the side when not with you then with the other guy and vice versa
2006-09-28 13:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by raudidave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!!!!!! We women always want what we can't have! If you pretend she dosen't exist, she'll want you more than ever!!
2006-09-28 14:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by Faith R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got me, man.....I have no idea......Go up to her and kiss her passionately.......
2006-09-28 13:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋