I was seprated and filing for divorce and had sex with an my ex.bf well really the only other guy i dated before my husband .He was my first everything and i still have feelings for my ex.bf. we were both 18 at the time and he left me while pregnant i miscarried for another girl he dated on and off and recently married has been for 6 months. He said they were having problems. He said he would pay my medical bills should i invite him to the doctors with me?should i inform him the doctor saw two sacs and my hcg hormones are tripiling and i am most likely having twins?I know we are both 24 now and adults but he is still married and i still remeber what he did?
2006-09-28 06:51:15 · 15 answers · asked by Jessica C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel the need to share this with someone?
2006-09-28 06:53:23 · update #1
is there a chance he has changed or could?
2006-09-28 07:00:36 · update #2
im so confused with tha whole story
2006-09-28 06:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was married at 25 and I thought I was an adult.I'm 40 now and looking back I really wasnt,I was a big teenager,I think that is where you are now(dont take that personal plz)now get this straight...Hes Married!(you know for better or worse and all that)would you(ask yourself) be happy with someone whom would leave his wife for you,is that really what you want,he should help you with the medical bills after all it takes two,but other than that i can tell you all you'll do is create regrets,if not now..later on.find someone who really cares about you,he's out there somewhere believe me,and theres no sense in ruining the other girls life,she picked him let him have him,'cause if you get him history as we already see will happen again and youll be the one cheated on..do you really need that much drama or would you rather have a real life??? best of luck
2006-09-28 07:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by stygianwolfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the father and you are going to expect him to be responsible for the child(ren) then by all means yes. I would definately be speaking to him about what he plans to do in regards to his wife. She needs to be told. Wouldn't you want to know if your husband of 6 months was fathering a child or children by another woman? He has a responsibilty to these kids and to his wife so this is a tough call for both of you. Should have been a little more careful to begin with. He left you once when you miscarried and now you would sleep with him again? WHY?
2006-09-28 06:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by totallyd14me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I have to wonder--were you protecting yourself and using any form of contraception?
That out of the way. Yes, you have got to inform him and keep him updated. It's mute at this point if he decides to stay with his wife or abandon you...expect it. He is now going to be a father, and he is fiscally responsible to the children that he produces. I hope he is not an idiot...but I have to wonder if he used contraception, too. He is accountable to his wife and family. (Do they have kids??) Don't break up his family---he has got to break that family up (or divorce his wife) on his own terms. You have to stay out of that situation. Your issue is for child support. Are you still not divorced from your husband? Do you have any other children? Wow. what a mess. I really hope things work out and that you have healthy babies. Keep healthy, walk lots, take prenates and good luck with carrying...twins or not.
2006-09-28 07:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex left you when you were in one of the most difficult parts of your life, cheated on his wife with you, and is already having a bad marriage, I'd say he's one of the worst catches you could get. Although he should know about the twins, (if they're his) i would never be intimate with him. Throw him back, there are other, better fish in the sea.
2006-09-28 06:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by DaniLynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a loser always a loser. If he left you while pregnant before chances are he will do so now. And how could you ever trust him, he cheated on his wife with you and he would do the same to you! I would let him know that you were pregnant, because he needs to pay child support.
2006-09-28 06:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that his wife knows you are pregnant with his kids. You don't want this being a problem when you have them. Take care of it now.
2006-09-28 07:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, so he got you pregnant when you were 18 & again now with Twins?! You have to tell him if you think the twins are his.
2006-09-28 06:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have no family,, he should be responsible for his sperm if the babys are his,, and up to you whether to include him in it,, pretty bad if his marriage is already bad at 6 months, what did he get married for???
I suggest surrounding yourself with friends and family and moving on,
2006-09-28 06:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you guys haev a lot of stuff to catch up on. i would take things slow. wait tl he gets divorced. since theyre his babies too let him be a part of it and let him go to the doctor with you.
2006-09-28 06:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋