The boyfriend is my brother...He is imature.....he calls her stupid, retarded, no good, and treats her like crap. She is not allowed to go anywhere or have fun, but he is........plus they have a baby(1 year)... neither of them seem happy together....She is scaired to death of him... when my bestfriend and I go to church, he drives by like 5 times(slowly). He is a acholic..druggie...and needs anger magament.
2006-09-28 06:50:07 · 21 answers · asked by Katie C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think she'd better leave him before her boyfriend does something crazy to his girlfriend. But breaking up with him would just make him more an^gry so i think you'd better get more people to help them.
he needs to grow up and start acting like a man!
2006-09-28 06:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now! I've been through this. She will end up having a mental breakdown eventually. I had a child to a guy that treated me the same way along with physical abuse. Eventually she will become depressed, no self esteem, no self-worth he''ll run you to the ground. That child can grow up without him. And it would be far better for the child because children do live what they learn. It's not an easy task being a single parent, but she'll make it through this. She will eventually meet someone else who will treat and respect her far better than this. If he keeps harassing her, she should get a protection from abuse order slapped on him through your court system. He will leave her alone after that, or go to jail. There's nothing worse than being with someone that makes you miserable. Life's to short to put yourself through it.
2006-09-28 07:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you see what your brother is doing, have you talked to him to make him realize what he is doing?
And you see your best friend suffering at the same time, so maybe you should ask her to have a restraining order against him, because she already feels threatened by him, and maybe move a block somewhere without telling him.
She has a child, so this child should not grow up in an environment especially with a father who happens to be an alcoholic. You know him better that she does. So advise her what to do because you know his actions and the steps or how far he will go.
I would say just look out for her, she is scared, you're her only chance. I know she will listen to you. :)
2006-09-28 06:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Christine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's not in a good place right now. The best thing I see for ur best friend is walking out on ur brother... When a man starts to tell u. U can't do this r that. He's trippin who gives him the right to act like her father there supposed to be 50/50. Not 90/10... So my adivice is tell her to leave now before it gets worse and trust me things start out small and always blow up into something bigger. The longer she's stays the harder it will be for her to leave.....
2006-09-28 06:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have witnessed this act of stupidity myself. Many adult adult males in Islam ( i'm no longer speaking for all ) have a tendency to over exaggerate the note of Allah. take be conscious "it is a significant SIN" all of us ( woman and guy ) have the reality ( THE e book OF GOD, QURAN) a lady declared through Allah is a particular advent. a lady is to be treated with kindness, sincerity, gentleness. What you're witnessing isn't Islam. in some unspecified time sooner or later you'll locate that tender Muslim couple and also you'll locate the reality. It only takes one sturdy Muslim guy to instruct it, no longer ALL MUSLIM adult adult males cope with THEIR women human beings the way you've WITNESSED contained in the previous. I pray Allah will make your eyes see the reality, reason from time to time you get to used to the Western Civilization that you cant tell hard love from brutality. would the peace and advantages of Allah be upon you!
2016-11-25 00:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a very healthy relationship for them or the baby. Have you tried talking to your brother? How about having a male family member talk to him? Sounds like he needs some intervention before he destroys himself. I think you should be more worried about the path your brother is heading down.
2006-09-28 06:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by truthbetold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult situation seeing as how he's your brother and the mother of his child is your best friend. As a best friend, your friend needs to leave and find a way to raise that child away from all that anger and hostility. As a sister, you need to council your brother and seek help for him. It sounds like your brother is in worst shape than your best friend.
2006-09-28 06:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by tbranson303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep he has issues.
You need to be concerned for this little one as well.
They both need to seek counseling to see if the unhappiness relates to the "tiedown" feel because of the baby, if not married or feel trapped in the marriage.
They both need to seek counseling to see if they really still love each other - loving should mean trusting......if issues do not allow trust - that is where the counseling will help.
Best wishes to all of you!
2006-09-28 06:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now!! I'm sure that you guys have seen a million Oprah shows about this sort of thing. He's very abusive and these things never end happily.
2006-09-28 06:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by beach chatta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE why if he can't respect her she don't need him she need to move on with her life and find someone new, someone that respects her as a woman someone that she could have fun with and could trust and not be scared of someone that she could love and love her back and leave that immature acting boy alone. find you a man that doesn't mind helping you out with your child
2006-09-28 07:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋