i love being in love and everything that comes with it but i'm starting to believe that being single and consequently not engaging in romantic affairs gives me more peace. 'cause if i fall in love, i fall for real & once it's over it hurts too much and it makes me totally shattered; emotionally & mentally. i love romance & passion but if it's not with the right person i don't do it. so i guess, what i'm really asking is for your opinion on coming to terms with being single and how to control your desire. i don't wanna feel it 'cause it makes me long for something i can't have.
thanks
2006-09-28 06:43:24 · 9 answers · asked by Eden 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Mythology & Folklore
Just David, don't tease me, i'm having a hrad time already; that's a great quote though
thanks
2006-09-28 06:53:59 · update #1
I am a reborn christian and have been struggling with this myself because I am in love with two people. My ex, and my best friend. I cannot resist either one (don't judge-i almost never see my ex) and it's not even about the sex its about the intimacy and closeness. I have been wondering if I should do the same thing you're proposing not only to be a better christian but to protect my heart. I think it's a great idea given all the double standards these days too. Since we arent together my friend sleeps around a little and it breaks my heart but I can't say anything. However he calls me names if I go out- so does the ex. So i figure if I deny myself that connection until I know what to do it will be that much less complicated. But have yet to figure out how... this is making me cry... lemme know what you come up with- we'll help each other!
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2006-09-28 06:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Slutlana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I'm not sure anyone really comes to terms with being single. Now this is only my opinion, but I believe the majority of single people would like to meet someone. Now I certainly not saying they are desperately trying to meet their soul mates, but companionship is a wonderful thing. That said, I understand how you feel. I miss being in a relationship, but the idea of having another one end is just too distressing. All I can say is when the time is right, it will happen and there is really nothing you can do to speed it up. Whether you spend your time alone or in mediocre relationships or are lucky enough to find a fabulous one.. all you can do is take it one day at a time and let fate do the rest.
2006-09-28 06:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I have the same problem. Like, right now, I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend and sometimes I think it would just be a lot better if I just didn't love at all. Love brings unnecessary stress to your life and when you add intimacy to the picture, it just really makes it worse for the female I believe. We always fall deeper than the man. I have realized that when I was single, I was a lot happier. Sometimes I did get lonely and want someone to hold me and make love to me, but that goes away. Maybe we could come up with something together!
2006-09-28 06:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be truly free in your single life, you have to come to the point where you no longer want to be with someone. Generally speaking, that means filling your life with activities you enjoy, friends that you love, and maybe a dog to curl up with at night.
The down side of this is that usually, just around the time you manage to become happily single, a great guy comes along and negates all the work you just did.
2006-09-28 06:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings, I think. This is something married people also have trouble with at times. It's not a good state to long for something you can't have, but it keeps you alive, it keeps your heart and mind going, your will, love.
I'm someone who always looked for love when I didn't have it, and can be happy alone with myself, but I like love better. Most people are that way and only are bitter and deeply hurt when they think they don't feel that way.
But I do understand....
2006-09-28 08:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up on love, And never give up on yourself. Love is not something that you can capture or demand by the wave of a hand, All you have to do is trust yourself and love will find you and enlighten you and fill you mind and heart with success and happiness and joy...................................................... Pain is a price you pay for just being human but it is also a price that all human should want to pay for the true enlightenment of love.......
2006-09-28 08:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that you have to be comfortable with yourself before you get into a relationship with anybody else. You havet o enjoy being with yourself, because once they're gone, that's all you have.
2006-09-28 06:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a burning ring of fire.
Johnny Cash.
2006-09-28 06:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Just David 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BOYS ARE THE DEVIL!!
2006-09-28 06:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋