I am interested in another guy, can i go ahead?

Question

I love my hubby yet i can not resist my TL at office. He is charming. I discussed with hubby he says give it a try. What should i do?

Answer 1

IS THAT ME??
GO AHEAD!

Answer 2

If you go strictly by the law, then it is infidelity and an offence. These things go strictly against Indian family values too (I guess you are an Indian couple). But nowadays couples go for partner swapping with mutual consent and that is considered ok. You are greatly interested in your TL (pardon my ignorance, but what is TL by the way?) and your hubby has also given you the green signal. It appears that you are a very liberal minded couple. So no harm in trying him out. But by your own admission, you love your hubby. And I guess that by approving your wish, which normally rubs the male ego, your husband has shown that he loves you a lot too. So make sure that you don't fall in love with the other guy in the process. That would be a big loss to you. Let it just be casual sex only, for change of taste. Also before you enter into it, give some time to think whether you can handle this complication. Although you are going into it voluntarily and with mutual consent, this might upset the loving relationship between you and your hubby if badly handled. And finally, I hope you wouldn't go green if your hubby said one day that he wanted to check out an attractive female colleague.

Answer 3

what kind of couple of are u?
Is there any meaning for marriage?

Don't involve urself in these things. Even if ur TL agrees to have sex with u, the happiness u get out this will be for a short term, but the consequences of this act will be real bad. There won't be any values left in ur family.

India is known for its good culture and good family system, dont give it a bad name.

Answer 4

Do extramarital affairs help or destroy a marriage? A lot of people say that having such affairs helped them solve the problems they had with their spouses, while other people’s marriages are destroyed by them. Do partners feel more comfortable in relationships outside their marriage and what could be the cause of that?
Studies conducted says that unfaithfulness is not normal or acceptable, have shown that first-time divorce occurs in the wake of an affair; yet it also states that ‘a crisis of infidelity can reawaken a petrified marriage and therapy can save the adulterous marriage’, something in total contradiction with our traditional culture. Which should we believe then? Studies also lead us to believe that the second possibility should be seriously considered; in interviewing women engaged in extramarital affairs, she found that over half of them had improved their relationships with their husbands as a result of the affair. The fact that their needs were being met outside the marriage caused a change in their behavior in the marriage.
Extramarital relationships occur because “we are unrealistic about love and the ability of our spouse to satisfy all our sexual needs”. there are five completely untrue myths that contribute to our faith in sexual exclusivity: one person will supply all of another’s emotional, social, and sexual needs people grow to love each other more through the years sexual exclusivity comes easily and naturally husbands and wives should be best friends extramarital affairs will destroy a marriage
But lets examine this situation from the men’s point of view as well. Women and men have different expectations in extramarital relationships and while women report that their affairs are less for sexual fulfillment and more for emotional support and companionship, the most frequent reason men give for being unfaithful is either sexual rejection by their wives or the boredom of having repeated sex with the same person. The sexual excitement is a much stronger motive to cheat than for women, yet women are always more to blame for the affair than men, regardless of which one is married (we do not even have “other men”).
Studies have also shown that relationships between married men and single women are often closer than those between the man and his wife are. This happens for several reasons: she becomes more attached to him due to the support and listening he shows; studies report some women prefer the mistress role because this life is more interesting than that of a wife. Women also seem to develop a higher sense of confidence as lovers. The men are more likely to expose their insecurities in this kind of relationships, which strengthens the bond between them even more.
I could probably conclude that a lot of the success of an affair is due to the erroneous assumptions concerning marriage that we make influenced by social factors, but also to the fact that these affairs give you more ’personal space’ than marriages do.

I have given a view but then again it is a sure shot way of destroying your marriage and the beginning of maritial discord. I suggest both you and your husband give a thought to what u suggested and what he agreed too.

Answer 5

Rats know when to abandon a sinking ship, only when they get off they drown because they're stupid and forgot to take thier floaties with them...

Do what you want if you think you can handle that type of relationship with your husband, but its a two way street, if you do then you just gave the call for open season on your husband doing the same.

Answer 6

Bhavana see its not a normal case. Though indian hubby may go for another woman, He will not permit wife to go for another man.
In your case if your hubby permitted you then he may be having another woman in mind to whom he loves & want to have permission from you to have sex.
any way think & avoid it as he is your callague in your office & once barrier is broken then its a free assess for ever.

Answer 7

Your husband said go for it??? Well, I don't know about the guy at your office, but your husband is obviously not acting the way a loving, devoted, faithful husband should!! You should get a separation and file for divorce and THEN if you still want the other guy, go for it.

Answer 8

ur going on wrong path , i suggest u to change ur mind and concentrate on ur work , bcuz ur hubby permitted u to work not to hook up with ur office people , so better u stay away frm ur team leader no matter how charming he is , behave as a friend not like a lover.

Answer 9

ur hubby will harbor bad feelings toward u even if its not shown and if doesnt and he is willing to share u with someone else he just really doesnt care that much anymore

Answer 10

Give it a try?? Your husband said that? That is a lack of respect for his wife. You married your husband and that is the only man you should ever consider being with. TILL DEATH DO YOU PART... what was hard about that?

Answer 11

Just tell your hubby you can be friends and that he is allowed to see other women and your going to see other men.