I'm Gay. My Gay experience has led me to a road of sex and drugs. Now I'm clean & sober. My sex-life is non-existent. I can't imagine (good) sex being without drugs. My Therapist says that most people are able to have sex without drugs. To me, and my perspective, I see the whole Gay world being around drugs and easy sex. I'm asking this question to see who is more accurate: Me, or my Therapist.
2006-09-28 06:29:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Interesting question. I have many opinions but i think i'll just safely stick to two. My 1st being that I believe that the gay community is just as mixed as the straight community. Heterosexuals have Party & Play groups and they also have their more um....timid couples who are more into bettering their relationships and theirselves than staying out all nite. I think the gay community is the exact same way. My and girl and I (been 2gether for a yr and a half and 100% committed) do the club thing, but only on the weekends and we do drink but NO drugs. So some would say we are more relationship oriented. But i know others who are out in the streets every nite. So its a mix. And my other opinion is on the fact that u cant imagine good sex without drugs...im so sorry!!! Now i will say that maybe some drugs make u less inhibited but u should be able to get help to become more sexually expressive and comfortable with yurself and your partener so you can have mindblowing experiences without any alterations.
2006-09-28 07:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was actually going to call you on a false dichotomy before I read the rest of your question. I'd have to agree with your therapist here. I've never gotten into the drug scene, but I have had occasional hookups. Most of those were pretty good; some of them fantastic. For the record, that doesn't mean I'm not "relationship-oriented" myself, but...I think there's some gray area. There's not just two polar opposites (hence the false dichotomy).
2006-09-29 00:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm with your therapist...sex is a natural phenomenon it doesn't need any enhancement from drugs...I never did many drugs to begin with but I find that as I grow older I want less and less party and more and more relationship...I've been with my partner for 20 years....I want the stability and the reality of the way my life is....drugs create an artificial world that I really don't want....and I'm not alone in this feeling...I think maybe you are just hanging around with the 'wrong' culture and you don't see the other side.
2006-09-28 14:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your therapist was correct. There is far more to being Gay than getting messed up and fooling around.
Sex without drugs is actually better, you can be sure the emotional responses you recieve are real, not just the buzz talking.
2006-09-28 13:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, most of the gay men I know are married or practically so. I don't know any gay men who do the club scene to the exclusion of relationships.
I think you need to find a better sample of gay men. What is there for a non-bar scene in your town? Any pressing political issues you could get involved with? Have a gay gardening club? What about finding men who share your spiritual affiliation?
2006-09-28 16:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never do drugs and sex at the same time. I like to have my wits about me. I also never become intoxicateed in a bar could lead to a bad scene. I once had a guy tell me after 5 beers everybody is a bottom. I dont drink around him anymore. LOL
2006-09-28 13:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never done meth or crystal or whatever the current Pn P drug is...I have drank a lot and tried a few other Rec drugs. But that is my party past. Most people go through a wild time in their life, but there IS happiness and fullfillment beyond a drug scene....
2006-09-28 13:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I supposed it would depend on who you ask. People who are having sex w/drugs or people who are having sex without drugs.
But seriously, it's going to be ok. You are at a point now of change. Try it on and see what it's like!! When you are with someone who blows your mind - it's a drug all of it's own.
2006-09-28 13:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by lesbianmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Where are you living only 5% of my friends have even tried anything more than Mary Juana... i know that isn't the correct spelling....
Maybe you should try going to another city... Or stop trying to meet people at Bars... that were most of the junkies hang.... Go to Barnes and Noble, or Lamda Rising.... Or even SOMETIMES on the net... But they are usually a little weird....
2006-09-28 13:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experiences none of my gay friends or me and my bf take drugs or drink. But we do like to get together and party every now and then.
2006-09-28 13:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋