I usually never talk to new people. I only talk to new people when they talk to me but the new people that talks to me rarely happens. I just cannot talk to new people at all. I have few friends. When new people talk to me, I smile at them a lot. I have tried practicing talking to myself in the mirror but that didn't help. I have tried asking complete strangers what time is it but that didn't help. Maybe I was born shy. The only friends that I friends that I have is the new people who talk to me. I can never initiate talks.
I tried God for a while but he didn't help at all. So I am now an aetheist. I know there is no way that you can prove there is a god and if there is a god, you do not know how he looks like.
So in other words, what do you think I should do?
2006-09-28 06:29:06 · 7 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yeah, there is no problem with the way you live now. Many people live just like you.
2006-09-28 11:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be the exact same way. High School was tough for me. I was too shy to talk to anyone, even if they talked to me first and I never raised my hand in class. I rarely made new friends. I have kind of grown out of it. Try this, next time you see someone you want to talk to think of something to compliment them on. Compliments work every time. Like "Where did you get that cool ( fill in the blank with some article of clothing or an accessory)". Or make some random comment about the weather, someone else in the room or passing by, how late it is, whatever. Don't worry about what they will think. That use to me my problem. I didn't want to sound stupid but I've learned that everyone is self concious to some extent and they are usually more worried about themselves than what you are saying. If they are rude to you then just move on. No harm ,no foul. That's their loss. Hope I have been helpful.
2006-09-28 06:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you lack self-confidence. I know when I'm feeling confident I am more likely to approach new people but when I'm not feeling confident I want to hide. Be sure to do some things that make you feel good about yourself, bring you confidence, then go to places where you are most likely to find similar type people. If you love to run or bike, join a club, if you love to read, go to the library or bookstore. I am going through a similar change myself but stay patient and have confidence! Oh, and don't give up on God so easily, he takes time. Remember people are human, and even if they are christian it does not mean they are perfect. Never put your full faith or trust in other people, they will only let you down. You have to have faith and trust in yourself.
2006-09-28 06:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are doing ok to me... You realized the way that you are and you are trying to be more active in life. Just continue to smile at strangers as they pass by or say hi to people when the smile at you and try to take the initiative once in awhile. You never know you could be meeting some really cool people that way.
2006-09-28 06:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. The easiest way to talk to someone new is to talk about something notable in the surroundings. It takes practice. You just might make a good friend, so keep trying. Don't worry too much about believing in God. If you treat people right, that's what's important.
2006-09-28 06:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you feel like your way of life is good?
if you feel that you have no problem with it, so theres nothing you need to change..
God is all around, God exist in every single thing you saw in this life that is God manifest, you'll find God in your heart, and always be there no matter if you are an atheist, jewish, or mosleem, and God grace lived in every breath you take
how can you denied something that already in you??
So what I think u should do is simple "Get a Religion" you won't find God if you still an atheist..
want some advice??? may be you'll be better if you are a mosleem
2006-09-28 07:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by morroniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should find a group that have a similar interest and join it. that way you will have something to talk about. And goingback to church won't hurt, even if you no longer believe, it is another way to meet new perople.Look for a church near you that has an after church coffee session. People will soon start talking to you and you won't feel so uncomfortable
2006-09-28 06:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋