What in the hell are we supposed to say? We're screwed if we say yes but if we say no it doesn't matter sometimes because you don't seem to believe us....
2006-09-28 06:16:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't, but then I know my... well, never mind.
I see what you mean, though.
In a way, it is simply asking for reassurance, but it's also asking about that particular outfit, which IS asking for information. And if she always gets the same answer, even if the clothes are unflattering, then she's not going to believe you.
It is unfair to put someone in a no-win.
I don't know if a gentle comment about the clothes themselves would work, here "That's not the most flattering thing you wear." or something. The idea is to emphasize that it's the clothes, and that her butt itself is perfect. "It makes it look bigger than I know it to be." is the concept to go for.
Or maybe (when it isn't a flattering outfit -- if you can tell the difference) "Wear something else tonight."
Or maybe just "You know, I can never tell; your butt always looks the same, perfect size to me, no matter what you wear."
Sometime when she hasn't just asked this question, bring it up and ask her what you could say that wouldn't be problematic. Maybe you can get her to agree to stop asking you.
If she says she just wants your honest opinion, remind her of this next time she asks: You want me to give an honest and objective opinion here, and you won't be offended it you don't like the answer, and you'll believe me if you do? What do you want me to say here?
Maybe you should start asking her if YOUR butt looks right, or in some other way turn the situation into a joke.
(I once saw a piece of email humor of things men want to get across to women that ended "and no, your (breasts/butt) don't look too (small/big), in fact, (they/it) look d*mn good to me.")
It's a shame you haven't gotten a lot of responses from women who ask this question; they probably would have had something more helpful. Or from men who've found good things to say.
Maybe you should try this question again, but phrase it more positively, or at least neutrally (I find it a bit offensive, myself, as it over-generalizes).
What can a man say when asked by a woman "Does this make my butt look big?" and then give your "damned-if-we-do damned-if-we-don't" explanation. You might get more responses.
2006-09-28 12:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I truthfully have under no circumstances asked a guy approximately his opinion on the dimensions of my butt and if he thinks i glance stable in a pair of denims. I be certain if he would not like it, there are smaller butts available. i'm nicely unsleeping that if i'd desire to desire to lose some pounds, what I did to reason it and additionally the dimensions of my butt.Now, i'd desire to ask a woman looking out to purchase significant other that question.
2016-10-18 03:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a good question....
women want to get reassurance when they ask this question. problem being, they question the honesty of the answer if it is positive or not. yes, you are screwed either way. i don't think women even realize they do stupid things like that (myself included).
2006-09-28 06:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only woman you could get, would be one with a big *** and no brains!!! Aren't you the guy who screams at everyone who disagrees with you?? You aren't a cowboy. Cowboys are cool and laid back. You are a ranting idiot.
2006-09-29 04:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋