Why would he say that?

Question

Awhile back (6 months ago) I was out at a club with this guy that I've been in a casual relationship with for over a year, his roommate & my friend. Early on in the night he asked my friend why I hadn't said anything about his haircut, it was subtle so I actually didn't notice. Then later on she told him (she told me after the fact) that I like him for him. Later on, we were both being flirty & acting like each other's bf/gf. But then we got a lil drunk, & he strayed off and tried to get this other girl's phone #! So I had to keep his roommate company. I'm not sure why he did that, but I was mad, so I called one of my guy friends, which we call each other babe sometimes, to show him that I can do the same. Anyways, he heard me on the phone, & got mad at me the whole night, wouldn't even talk to me! The next day, I asked him if he was mad & that the guy was just my friend, & he said, "I'm not mad, it's not like we're bf/gf. WTF?!

Answer 1

If you were mad at his straying off then perhaps your feeling theres something more than just a "casual relationship".

If you really have feelings for this guy but have been fighting them off then its time to get off the pity pot and make a statement of fact.

Apparently it did bother you that he was after another girl's phone number or you wouldn't have gotten mad - right!?

If your going to have double standards and only have him around for the "flirty thing" then let him know about it and set the guidelines out for the future "outings".

If thats all there is then thats all there is.

Make up your mind before some other cutie gets him and your left out watching in the cold.

.................think about it...........

Answer 2

He must feel that what is good for him is not good for you to do. Take notice of the subtle clues here, he was entertaining the thought of another female and just didn't feel you should be doing the same. obviously he is telling you he is not considering this relationship an exclusive one. He is being honest with you, you may however be reading more into it than is really there. If you want a committed relationship you may need to look else where. You could always open the conversation up with him and simply state your needs and desires out of this relationship and allow him to make his known. And hope he is mature enough to be honest. Keep in mind actions speak louder than words, he can tell you one thing and do another. Don't fool yourself. his actions have already spoke volumes.

Answer 3

He got mad because he realized you knew what he was doing.. which was using you to attract other women!!!

Guys take their friends who are girls to clubs and such so that other girls will see them and think that they are either taken or in demand. These are the type of girls that are looking for sometning short time - like the parking lot or for just the night... and "steeling" someone out from under another girls nose is even better!!!

So.. he was useing you and was more mad at himself than you. Also.. if any of the potential girls he was trying to bed that night heard you it ruined his story!!!

its a good thing this guy is a "friend'... cuz as a partner he would suck!!!!

Answer 4

Wow, what a loser! He sounds like a jerk, one of those guys... what do you call them... insecure! I say you are wasting your time on this dude, ditch him and find someone who wouldn't put his feeling before yours.

I had a guy before and well we dated for a little while, and yes he always strayed away with other girls on his arm or kissing right in front of me. I would be so damn mad, and all this time I thought we were an item. Anyways, I told myself two can play at this game. So I grabbed one of my friends whom by the way liked me a lot and started making out with him. I was really getting into it, and then I felt someone tugging my arm asking me what the hell are you doing? I told him it really wasn't his business, by the way who was that girl you were sucking face with. He didn't have anything to say after that. But he did apologize for his behaviour and told me it wouldn't happen again. Well, a few months down the road things were going great but he cheated on me so I left his sorry ***.

So... I say leave the dude and find someone who won't treat you like dirt.

Answer 5

it sounds like he is either really hurt or that's just how he feels

he was drunk and when people get drunk they do stupid things so give him a tiny break on that one

but when he said you guys aren't bf/gf that hurts cus he was sober so talk to him about it just tell him the truth

Say " i saw you all over that other girl and it made me jealous and so that's why i called my friend. but i am sorry and i thought we had something special between us so when you did that it hurt my feelings and i thought we were a little more serious than just friends and when you said that we aren't gf/bf it got me thinking what are we?"

then let him talk and you will get your answer

Answer 6

I actually think his whole gig was about control.

I think the instant he thought he had you, his interest died off and he was riding his alcohol-high over to another girl's ranch (so-to-speak)m knowing you were in his back pocket.

Some guys are like this, and even I get that compulsion sometimes. But I am aware of it in myself and know it's wrong and can pretty easily kill it, but a lot of guys can't, or don't.

I would say you have yourself a genuine bad boy and that's exactly what you're going to get if you hang with this dude.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

the two of u need to be honest about what u both want from each other. Sounds like u both already like each other, but both are trying to make each other like the other one by playing games.
Leave the games a lone and talk to each other honestly.