He doesn't really think of me as much as he does his friends or himself. Never wants to do anything, besides go to his neighbors and drink, every weekend. I always have to go out places with out him, and i HATE IT! Never comes to my house, i always have to go to his. and i only see him on the weekends. He also is very unhappy with his life, but wont change anything. Never wants to talk about the future. IM 25, hes 27, WHAT is HE WAITING FOR!!! This all may sound really bad, but we have alot in common, and he makes me laugh. Can i do anything to change our current situation?
2006-09-28 06:13:30 · 20 answers · asked by Sara 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Misery loves company. If you surround yourself with people who are miserable, you yourself will become miserable. You are being drained. If a person, especially one that is suppose to love you is not thoughtful of how you feel then separate yourself from that person and find someone who shares your love and thoughtfulness, or you can continue to be miserable. You control your happiness. Direct your energy to making a change for yourself rather than thinking of ways to change another. Changes will come for your current boyfriend when and if he feels he needs or wants to change, not because you think he should. Don't let what you are feeling emotionally for this person keep you from getting what you truly deserve.
2006-09-28 06:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by 9knowledge 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can only tell him how you feel. If it doesnt change than I am sorry to say you should find someone else. Read your question. Your answer is right there. though you have fun with himm and he makes you laugh you are unhappy and thats all there is to it. it sounds like the two of you make better friends than anything. You cant change a person so dont try, he should want to change to make you as happy he is. Ad after 4 years.............you know what to do sweetie
2006-09-28 13:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are letting him get com forty , you can't change him ,he has to and want to , the next boy friend you get don't settle for less ,if you want tea and cookies all the time he's not going to complain
the ruggats make me laugh but I see them when I want, sounds like you are parked in a rut, pull out.you are 25 and he is 27, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR
2006-09-28 13:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 23 years, so obviously I'm a lot older than you and I know you cannot change anyone. You just accept them for who they are or move on.
My husband and I are separated now because, just like your boyfriend, he thinks a lot more of himself and his friends than me. (Even though he claims he still loves me.) Men (or people) are going to do what they're going to do, and will not change unless they feel it inside.
2006-09-28 13:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by ruthncls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him honestly how you feel; it is up to him to make adjustments if he wants to; you can't change him; he has to do it; if he doesn't make the necessary changes you have 2 options - either accept him the way he is or dump him and find someone who not only makes you laugh, but also puts as much into a relationship as you do; good luck
2006-09-28 13:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can...you can choose to see that he's not good enough for you as a boyfriend and that perhaps he's better as one of your best friends.
He'll never change, he'll never come to your house, he'll always think more of his friends than you.
Have some self esteem and take care of you. You deserve better.
2006-09-28 13:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by Fivens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change somebody.
Give him some love and care.
He will love you back and care about you more.
In the mean time, try ignore him for a day or two and he will start calling or come to your place.
2006-09-28 13:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by badtzadvice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try to change peole but it wont work if ur uncomfrotable in your own skin then you cant change that if he doesnt treat u like he cares ...break up and meet new people dont let people walk all over you show some back bone
2006-09-28 13:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by JaQ™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to change your situation is to get another boyfriend. He will never be what you want him to be.
2006-09-28 13:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't even try to change him. Either learn to accept him as he is, or find someone else to love. (From what you write, the latter might be better for you.) Trying to change him will only create resentment for both of you. Trust me: guys HATE it when girls try to "change them for the better."
2006-09-28 13:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by R[̲̅ə̲̅٨̲̅٥̲̅٦̲̅]ution 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋