Hi im 25 yrs old married female ive been married for almost 2 years & im bi well my best friend keeps calling me babe & told me she loves me & thats she wanted me to leave my husband for her my husband wants to have a 3 some but im afraid it may ruin my marriage i want to tell her my feelings but how do i tell her i feel for her alot & how should i tell my husband that im in love with her also ?
2006-09-28 06:13:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
by the way yes my husband knows im bi & i married him because yes i do love him but i want the proper way to tell him so please dont leave rude answers on here thanx for all the people that have answered nicely
2006-09-28 09:47:19 · update #1
i'm not to sure what to do in your situation. i've had something similar happen to me with my friend (also girl) she wanted me to leave my bf for her so we could be together but then we started to hang out more and we found out that it wouldn't work out and i did tell my bf at the time that she said this and well he was a jerk and well all he said was invite her over lol. but i'm not sure what to do mabe just tell your husband the truth cause he is the guy you married and at one point wanted to spend the rest of your life with so tell him the truth and take it from there and tell her you have somethings to sort out before you give her any answer.
2006-09-28 06:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing to be attracted to your friend and another to leave your husband for her. A lot of friends love each other, but it's mainly platonic. You will definitely ruin your marriage if you have a 3some with her. After all you are both having feelings for one another. Sex with your friend will not only be sex, it will involve feelings and emotions for one another. The only one that will get hurt here is your hubby. You don't have to stop being friends with her. Just set her straight about how much you value your marriage.
Another thing you've only been married for 2 years, don't you think it's too early for both of you to be thinking about 3some's. It sounds like you both need to analyze your marriage. Neither of you sounds happy with what you guys have at home. Talk to your husband and see if staying married is the best thing to do. Love is not always enough for a couple to be married. You must complete each other in every sense of the word. Even in bed. Good luck and hopefully everything works out for you.
2006-09-28 06:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not really ready for the committment of marriage. If you still want to play around you should get a divorce. If you were in a strong secure marriage I would say the threesome might be okay but then again why get married if you still want to have sex with other people? You and your husband should talk honestly.
2006-09-28 06:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, If you do have a 3sum it will destroy what ever is left of your marriage, been there done that with my BF (girl) and with my husband. It tore both of my relationships up between him and her because i never thought he would have sex with ne one else. plus I always thought if he could have sex with my best friend he could with a stranger... he never cheated on me.
Second if you love your husband which you should you need to work it out, you will regret it allot if you don't make it work.
Third do you think that the life of being with a woman all the time is going to be a piece of cake? Nope you will still crave the male, then will you cheat on her or will you decide to leave her for a male like you did your husband?
2006-09-28 06:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by LynneRobb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to make up your mind sounds like to me.
Either go one way or the other with this one.
It will ruin your marriage if you have that threesome because you'll never be able to look him in the face again unless your both perverted. Maybe thats the case?
Perhaps the funning around with your girlfriend is just that? Are you ready to walk down the divorce aisle? Maybe you are.
I would be absolutely sure about what it is that your saying if you are a lesbian then let the guy outta the bag as he's only going to cause hardship between whomever you choose and yourself.
..................think about it..........
2006-09-28 06:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by MsEagleTX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will never work out. I'm in the same situation but not with a best friend. Does it bother you when you think of him and another? Have you messed with her while you were with him? Would you let her be with your husband? Think about it first before you jump into it. Ask him if you could have a girlfriend. Maybe he will be okay with you being with her on the side. Good Luck!! Let me know how it goes I'm curious!!!
2006-09-28 06:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by Martha L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband know what she wants, and why, so he'll understand why you are hesitant to make a threesome a reality with her. She would not be a good threesome partner, if she's in love with you, because she would keep trying to exclude him in every way, and that would not be pleasant for him. If you're desiring to have a bi experience, pick someone else that's not in love with you, and have a threesome with her.
2006-09-28 06:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you're in hot water. I think you need to sit with your husband and have a real heart to heart with him. You two are in a marriage which means that if one of you is going thgurgh something then you should work as a team to resolve the situation. Don't go behind your husband's back with your friend, the outcome could be disastrous on your marriage.
2006-09-28 06:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you have already ruined your marriage. 3 some destroy marriages, feelings for some of the same sex destroy marriages, and admiting your feelings to your friend will only complicate things more.
Seek God he is Desperatly trying to reach you.
He has the answer to ALL your questions and concerns. Have true Faith. Ask God to save your marriage, change your heart, and to take away anything negativity lusting around with only one goal... Destruction. Good luck
E-mail me if you feel the need.
2006-09-28 06:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Social 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! sweetheart, it goes on all the time..Yes I would tell your husband, see what he thinks about it, never know he just may jump at the idea..Sure does spice up the love making baby...Just have an oxygen tank handy you'll need it...Good Luck, your friend from Tennessee....ROB
2006-09-28 06:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋