My grandpa has come to live with us 2 weeks ago. And my sister told me just yesterday that my grandpa told her she has nice boobs. I am scared to be near him now. My sister is only 12 years old she doesn't know anything about inappropriate touching. yet,so she didn't know it was wrong. And when he plays with my sister he touches her around her armpit which is close to her boobs. Am I just being paranoid? My family has a history of rape (my uncle raped my brother). So what should I do? By the way I did tell my mom but all she said was: just stay away from him. My grandpa is very racist he hates black people.He calls them black idiots who are white people's slaves. And fat people. He says fat people should be kileld by God. Although he is well over 110 kg which is 243 pounds.
2006-09-28 06:11:26 · 24 answers · asked by SunniGirl 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Your mother is right to stay away from him. Why doesn't your 12 year old sister know about inappropriate touching yet? Tell her and tell her to stay away from Gramps. Do not be afraid to tell Gramps that you have told your mom and whenever he gets close to you make sure he knows that you are on to him and that he will not get away with anything. Make a huge fuss about it. This is called incest. Im concerned that your mother is so lax about the whole thing since your brother has already been harmed. Gramps should find another place to live. Protect yourself and your sister! Be prepared if you get the authorities involved. Families tend to stick together on these things and don't want to air their dirty little relatives in public. But, if nobody is willing to help you, call the police. You are brave and smart and you will be able to withstand any fallout. It is your right to to live in peace without fear of molestation in your own home. Insure that you and your sister get it.
2006-09-28 06:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by kksay 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest that first of all that you sit your sister down and have a serious talk with her about dear old gramps. Second of all have a serious talk with MOM. If she keeps ignoring the problem, then no matter how painful it may seen to you, have a talk with a school coucilor or some other trusted adult. I have no idea of your age or social backgroud, or your age.
IIf you are thinking of this you must be in the least a very concious person and at least knows a thing or two about life.
I wish there is something more I could say to help, but just keep an eye on grandpa and especially your sister, 12 is in this day and age is the age of discovery and she does not need to discover the evil that lurks out there.
Well take care and be safe.
2006-09-28 06:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by usmcre6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a sad story if its true. Your mom is right for you not to be near your grandpa. But I think this guy should not be coming close to kids. Unfortunately in a family setting this is next to impossible to ask for such a thing. In any case my experience is that in such cases man are usually more direct than woman. Therefore, talk to your Dad. I know this is scarry and embarrasssing ! But he has the responsiblity of protecting the kids and he needs to know. Many older people may develop some kind of strange psycho-sexual behavior in their older years as part of dementia. Your Dad can ask your grandpa that he needs to see a psychiatrist for possible dementia before he will be allowed to enter home or see kids. If your grandpa refuses that solves part of the problem. If he agress then he has to see a psychiatrist. If he really has some issues then as far as I can remember psychiatrist has to take care of this problem to make sure he does not hurt anyone. This is a serious problem. Even if this is your misunderstanding, it should be cleared.
2006-09-28 06:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by WISEMAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mother that you plan on telling the authorities if she doesn't do something about him. The next step for him is to start messing with your sister. Unless this man has an illness that keeps him from differentiating between good and bad behavior there is no excuse for it. Also, if the uncle that raped your brother was one of your grandfather's sons then the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. If your Mother does nothing then go to the authorities soon before it gets out of hand or someone gets hurt.
2006-09-28 06:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I am going to say that the end of your comment could have been kept to yourself. We really didn't need to know he is a racist because it will cloud our opinion towards your question. I would say keep a good eye on your sister. If you feel she might be in harms way. If you share the same bedroom lock your door or block the entrance with something large like your dresser or something. And even though your sister is young you need to talk to her and make sure she understand what is going on. Explain to her that is not right so that she can stay away from your grandfather. And protect your little sister.
2006-09-28 07:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this a genuine question then maybe you should call chidline or the NSPCC for advice. I'm sure you have equivalent charities in the US, I assume you are American from your spelling of "Mum". Anything that you feel uncomfortable with is not right. And it is certainly an odd thing to say to a 12 year old. It is good that you told your mum, but a shame she didn't take you seriously. If you still feel worried talk to her again. Alternatively try talking to a teacher or someone else who is older that you trust.
2006-09-28 06:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Cazza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother will not do something about this, you need to discuss it with your father if this is an option, if not, discuss it with a counselor, this is very scary. It is sexual harassment of a young child. Pedaphilia is usually an adult who preys on young children, which your grandfather might be, you need to seek help, ASAP and you and your sister stay away from him.
2006-09-28 06:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah!!! He sounds psycotic! I would stay far away from him! And look out for your little sis. Maybe being ur the big sis u should have a conversation with her about what is appropriate and what is not. He shouldn't be telling her that about her boobs. That's disgusting!!!
2006-09-28 06:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by It'sMe23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does a panda could do with sexual harassment? in case you deliver a sizeable panda to a school to speak to little ones are not they gonna harass it with all of the grabbing, hugs, and kisses?
2016-10-01 11:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just what we need is another racist in this world, just dont follow in in foot steps, and about him doing with your sister, keep a close eye on him if you ever see him touch in a wrong way, call the police they know what to do with sick people like that.
2006-09-28 06:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by Alan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋