ok....see.... iam head over heels in LOVE with this guy...the thing is he already has a girlfriend....but,i feel that i should let him know about my feelings for him...iam very obsessed with him,and if i let him know,then maybe my obsession will subside.....so,iam planning on writing him an email,as hes staying in a different place for the timebeing.....[extra info-and i look hot and beautiful].....so,what should i write to him and will he respond? and,also what would you do if you were in his place? what and how should i present the email....?? plzzz answer truthfully........ means a lot.... thank you....!
is it safe to include a picture?? or,will he think iam being sluty.....i ve never donr this before,its just that i love him aaaa lot.....i dont want him to think bad about me
2006-09-28 06:06:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try not to interfere, but if you must say "I know you are with her and that won't change. But I have to tell u that I am obsessed with you and if you ever break up please give me a call."
2006-09-28 06:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think an email would be the way to go, when you correspond on the net you end up pouring out a little more than you should. i think the best way to go about it would be for you to make him like you more than he likes his current mate. trying to be confrontational with a person in his position probably isnt the best option, equate it to cornering an animal, get him to spend some time with you and over time, key here, over time let him know how you feel about the two of you, without pouring your soul out to him, maintain your dignity and show him the qualities that you think would enhance your lives. If the two of you have never met tread carefully he could end up viewing you as a hit and run if you catch my drift. just try not to be too clingy, don't be obsessive, and respect his decisions, if he ends up to not be interested then perhaps if things go south with his current relations he will consider you on the rebound, but its a two way street, keep one eye open if he turns around on his mate and starts up with you. good chica. instead of sending him a picture point him in the direction of your myspace address or whatever you use, hope you find what you're looking for
2006-09-28 13:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by bloody_trauma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sound obsesive in talking with him. Just let him know that you have interest in him. Let him know that you have decided to tell him this as he is away to give him time to think about it. You should get a response some time or the other. He will probably evaluate the relationship he is in and the friendship he has with you. You can send a picture, this is not slutty, as long as you don't send a penthouse pin up style photo. Good luck.
2006-09-28 13:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by jon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you said only guys but i couldnt help myself. Just think about how you would feel if sombody did that to your man. Or better yet think about this....... Say you wrote him the email and he responded and he dumped his girlfriend and you two hooked up. All woluld be fine and dandy right? WRONG! do you know why? Because you would remember how he dumped or cheated on his girlfriend to be with you and that would always run through your head. And if he did it to her who says he wont do it to you? Even if that didnt happen you would probobly be causing alot of problems in his current relationship, and thats no good.
My suggestion is to find sombody thats single and you will probobly like him even more.
good luck
2006-09-28 13:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear
dont be egoistic, whatever u feel just write in the mail except those words which u feel can frustrate him like anything negative about him [whether it is or not] just write down ur feelings ur heart on a paper[email] but dont put ur photo in it just give him some signs that he can identify you.
don't worry he wont' think bad about you as guys feel very happy when they receive anything from a gal doesnt' matter is it good or not.
so go ahead n all the best, well I think you r from india, if it is possible for you can u give me location, bcoz usually these kind of feelings only indian girls have....well if possible not mandatory...okay
best of love.......
2006-09-28 13:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by vickytejwani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to include a picture? doesn't he already know what you look like? Or are you a faraway stalker? I think you should just move along and bother somebody else. He has a girlfriend that he's probably happy with, don't **** things up
2006-09-28 13:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by MaNdYb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, sweety.......it's really sweet that you have taken to this guy so strongly, but if he's in a relationship......please, please don't mess with it. I'm sorry, but the girl he is with might adore him too, and if you distracted him....took even part of his attention away from her, that woudl hurt her terribly! Don't you agree?
As much as you care and want him, I am appealing to you as sincerely as I can to just leave him alone and let things be. Maybe he and she won't work out and THEN you can email him with your picture, but it's not right to do so now while he has someone.
I'm so sorry! :( :( :(
2006-09-28 13:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't your talk to him face to face? Let him know about your feeling with him. Mailing can't help sometimes. Choose a nice place and nice suit. You don't need look hot and beautiful, in fact how long that you can stand hot and beautiful?
2006-09-28 13:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by awkf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont' use a pic, the letter will be good enough. tell him how you feel and that you are torn up by him being with her and you want him too. and i think if he likes you back he'll come to you too after you write the letter to him. i'm sure you'll do fine with what you have to say. good luck and i wish you the best so you get your man.
2006-09-28 13:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by cristie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno im not a guy but honestly imin the SAME situation. i mean everything u said from the gurl to the feelings . i sent him an email we talk everynow and then about it . before i done it the relationship wasnt doing so weel anyway so he decided to test it out wit me so i think us hould tell him how u feel.
2006-09-28 13:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by Shawty Luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, obsession is not love. That's lust in a very serious and unhealthy way. Love is not a feeling, but a choice. Leave him alone if he's in a relationship.
2006-09-28 13:13:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋