I told my husband that I already payed for our computer with our income tax money...but I didn't and now he is upset. It has been like 7 months and he has asked me a few times about if I have paid it or not and I continuosly said yes, but I didn't I helped my mom with her house payment instead....he said that I should have never lied to him and I know that I shouldn't but, I didn't want to tell him because I was embarrased to ......he is now mad as hell at me...what should I do?
2006-09-28 06:03:11 · 12 answers · asked by YOUKNOWYOUWANNAKNOW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should of told him the truth. Now ask your mother to help you pay for the computer.
2006-09-28 08:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... You have violated his trust (but I'm sure you have figured this out already). All you can do is apologize and make sure you don't lie about anything again. He either will accept your apology or he won't. Either way you can't control his actions; only your own.
Look at it from your husband’s perspective. You not only lied but you used money that belongs to the two of you without consulting him first. In his mind you have totally disrespected him. You didn't consider his feelings or concerns in a decision that affects both of you. How would you feel right now if he had done this to you?
You be sure to do your part and not lie again, make sure you consult him before making decisions that affect both of you and over time he will get over this and begin to trust you again. If not, then your relationship has more serious problems than just this.
Good Luck!
2006-09-28 13:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have lied. You didn't say if you worked too or if it was your husband that worked. If its just him working, then you shouldn't have lied to him about the money that he makes. He has every right to know where that money is going to. If you needed to help your mom then you should've told him. he might not have liked it, but he would probably be less mad at you. Now you have to build up his trust again and it might take a while. Marriage is built on trust and once you take the trust away you have to work hard to gain it back. Marriage without trust is not a good marriage. It may seem a little drastic to say that, but you never lie to your husband and never screw with his money.
2006-09-28 13:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by waterglint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand that trust is very important in a relationship and you breeched it by telling a lie. you need to work at buliding that trust agian explain to him why you where embarassed about it he should understand. you know that you where wrong and he should be greatfull that yopu have accecpted your fault and try to move from there. It will take time but with determination you will get everything back be honest about things it take years to finally trust someone but it takes only 1 second of suspision or a lie to bring it crumbling down. Take courage and be strong
2006-09-28 13:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by kkj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should apologize for lying to him. You should also apologize for giving the money away. Granted, it was to your mother, but that money was from both of you. It was your tax return collectively. It wasn't like you were throwing your money away, but he still had a right to know what you were doing with "his" share of it. It doesn't help that you kept this going for 7 months either.
2006-09-28 13:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is tell him exactly how u felt at the time. it seems to me that making the house payment was the better choice to make. make sure to apologize to him for not being honest with him from the beginning. let him know that it was not your intention to hurt him and ask for forgiveness and if all goes well, seal it with a kiss, good luck!
2006-09-28 13:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Desire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you lie to him? You asked for it when you did. He's justfiably angry with you. I don't have a clue what to tell you to do but I do know you need to pay the piper. And pay that computer off too.
2006-09-28 13:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you're giving a lot of head for many months to come.
No pun.
2006-09-28 13:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were your husband, I would file for divorce, NOW.
I really mean that.
2006-09-28 13:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize and understand that you'll have to earn back his trust! let him have time to cool down and he'll forgive you
2006-09-28 13:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋