I have been going to this bar for about 8 months. The bar tender is an older guy but, really shy. Well a couple of weeks ago he asked me to come to the back and look at his bike well when i went back he kissed me. I had been waiting a long time for him to make a move or let me know he was interested. So, the next day he tells me he has a girlfriend but, he really doesn't like her. Anyways, I told him that he needed to let her know that. A couple of days later I spent the night with him we didn't have sex or anything like that but, he said that he respected me and when i was ready let him know. Well, yesturday I went to see him at the bar and he tells me that his girlfriend will be there later. I was mad. So I told him that I didn't want to do anything else with him until he was single. He said that he totally understands and that it was probably best for everyone. Then he said you know I have feeling for you. So what do I do now? Should I wait or move on?
2006-09-28 06:02:58 · 11 answers · asked by StephanieJJJ843 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't wait for him to prove his love. If he isn't 100% committed to you then move on. No excuses. No second chances. Don't be his second choice.
2006-09-28 06:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he has a girlfriend, no you should not wait. If he did not like her and liked you more, he would have already left her. If you find some kind of comfort in hiding and sneaking around with him, o.k., but keep your other options open and look around. There are too many single, good people looking for a mono y mono relationship.
2006-09-28 06:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by jon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Move on. And start looking in church to meet people. That's the kind of people you meet in bars. Bar tenders are said to sleep around a lot.
2006-09-28 06:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right that you cannot proceed until he ends his relationship with the other woman. You can wait, but he may be more motivated to act if you go ahead and find someone else.
2006-09-28 06:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him lots of sex and pleasure him but, don't get emotionally involved, and do him with no strings attached. Wear sexy revealing clothing and make-up, especially miniskirts and call him everyday. Learn your place in his life and he will grow to like you better and will make you his female. At least he is honest and he isn't leading you on ... Good luck!
2006-09-28 06:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time on him... You've done well so far to give him a chance. He's just trying to get with you and forget you
2006-09-28 06:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by MEGAWALRUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, he wants his cake and eat it too...If he didi that to her he'll do it to you if you guys get together later.
2006-09-28 06:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by SGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself what you want.he is keeping his both legs in two different boats i wonder how he will sail.Ask him whom he wants you or her ....give him only one choice.Then decide
2006-09-28 06:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find somebody else, he's hedging his bet.
2006-09-28 06:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by martin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on - he's not biting.
2006-09-28 06:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋