we've been dating for 4yrs, just last year when i got back from youth service he started acting funny, i found out about a girl in his life and told him to stop the friendship, he was rigid about it initially but later succumbed but did not keep to it.
Afterwards he started acting more funny, not calling as usual, always busy, spending less time with me, stopped buying gifts for me, missed our anniversary and valentine on the pretext that he wasnt feeling fine and too busy, came extremely late on my birthday without a gift except for icecream and pizza, made sure i didnt show up on his birthday by saying he was travelling and would be coming to Lagos.
Two days after this, he finally showed up and said he was tired of the relationship that my load was too heavy for him to carry.
How do i teach him a lesson he'll never forget in his life, run back to beg and never try it again with another lady,because he made a convenant with me not to break the relationship.
2006-09-28 05:54:08 · 21 answers · asked by slim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Make a move on his best friend.
He'll absolutely hate that.
2006-09-28 08:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by dirftwood22 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you remind me of a three year old that didn't get her way. You don't need to teach him a lesson. However you may need to learn a lesson.
A covenant to not break a relationship without a covenant to ensure the happiness of the relationship really won't mean anything. Unless you are committed to ensuring the happiness of your relationship, which means if your mate is unhappy figure out why and try to fix it (if indeed it is something within your power to fix), then your convenant to not breaking the relationship was made in vain.
People don't usually stray for no reason. More than likey he was just unhappy with your relationship. You can't force someone to be happy but maybe you can figure out your end of the mistakes so you can be sure not to make them again in future relationships.
2006-09-28 13:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try teaching him a lesson he'll learn one from everything he's done. Take this time to refresh your self go out meet new people and make friends, get a closer look at life and relationships. there's an old saying give to others waht you would like for your self,not that which is bad so so will get what he gave to you lots of heart ache
2006-09-28 13:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by kkj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A covenant only exist in marriage. Let his *** go. I would go and start finding male friends like flies find ****. You don't have to get back at him bcuz what goes around comes around. If he do come around act all nonchalant even if you want to kiss him. Let him know you have plans and can not sit around as if he is the only sausage that comes in the package. If he has been acting funny then he was trying to throw hints that you would not catch on to. Don't throw his *** hints but chunk his *** the deuce and move on. If he calls you tell him you are on the phone. If he comes by tell him you have company. ( I don't care if you are as lonely as a hamster on a damn wheel you don't let him know that.) He will teach himself a lesson if you don't take him back and totally ignore him.
2006-09-28 13:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on. You were screwed over. Such is life. Just get on with it instead of looking for revenge. Revenge has a strange way of coming back to haunt you too you know. Whatever you do can't be undone.
Act like an adult and choose wisely next time.
Not to mention you don't seem to mind prostituting your standards to "get him back". That's so nice. Makes you no better than him when it comes to scruples.
2006-09-28 12:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy for me to say, might be hard for you. Best advise, Drop him.Don't try to get even or teach him a lesson, this will not do you or him any good. get on with your life. Take some time off from dating, to get your mind clear and then just let nature take its course. You have the rest of your life to enjoy and spend with someone who you love and who loves you.
2006-09-28 13:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is tired of, is lying to you, and juggling all of his other woman. Be happy you did not marry him. The best lesson you can teach him is that he MISSED OUT on you! You can only do that by moving on. Move on and do not put any more energy into him.
2006-09-28 13:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by justthetwoofus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are learning a good lesson in life, You gave him a choice, you or his friends.
He chose his friends and a real life over a jealous manipulating woman.
2006-09-28 13:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't make and "convenant" with you. You aren't married yet, just engaged. He has every right to break it off if it doesn't feel right. Move on with your life. why do you want to waste anymore time on someone who doesn't care about you?
2006-09-28 12:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating. Just leave him instead of acting like a spoilt child by taking revenge.
2006-09-28 13:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if his current gf dump him, he' ll feel the pain of losing someone and have some common sense. hay what goea aroud comes around... amybe there' s someone better than him for you waiting somewhere!!
2006-09-28 12:59:30 · answer #11 · answered by Wild_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋