with his cousin and he doesnt know! its his cousin baby. i dont wanna hurt my boyfriend but how do i tell him its his cousins baby and not his! should i just keep quiet???
2006-09-28 05:34:03 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
no you have to tell him the truth. Dont go on living with this sercret that it isnt his because its going to bother you the rest of your life everytime you look at you child. You should tell him because its not right for him to rasie this kid like it his, let him go on if he wants to leave and go find someone who will have his baby. But you really need to figure yourself out and now you have a child to worry about so you need to tell him and go on and live your life! good luck to you, but next time when your in a relationship try and stay faithful so this wont happen again. But you need to tell him. Well you just probably started a bunch of trouble in the family too. But good luck girl be careful!
2006-09-28 05:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I think you should have told him a while ago - not right before you are delivering.
You might want to be quiet for now, at least a couple months, because after delivery, you'll be exhausted and the focus would be on how to take care of this little baby that ahs nothing to do with all the complicated stuffs around him/her. So Let's focus on the baby for a couple months - or until whenever you think you had a grip on this new thing, and tell your boyfriend then.
I know it sounds bad, but for your sake as a new mother and the baby's sake, I don't think anyone needs anymore drama on top of that. Believe me, handling a new baby is hard and sometimes can be stressful, You wouldn't want to fight with your boyfriend when you need his supports the most.
2006-09-28 05:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by meetha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! that is a problem! If he has been there and supported you through your whole pregnancy then it's hard to imagine how much that is going to hurt him, but if hes just another a.ss hole then it won't be as hard to tell him... either way you need to figure out for sure whos baby that is before you tell him, and if he is the father then great, but if he isn't then you're gonna have a lot of explaining to do. Just be as honest as you can, and I wish you lots of luck. But, you shouldn't have cheated on him and let him beleive it was his baby in the first place! Especially with his cousin! Does his cousin relize that he may be a father, and that he stabbed his cousin in the back? Well, goodluck...I hope everything works out for the babys sake.
2006-09-28 05:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have told him that when u first found out that you were pregnant. But since u didn't i would suggest telling him asap. Don't let him get attached to that baby and then have him find out that it is not his. That is dead wrong. I understand that people do things and the outcome might not be what that person wanted. Do not hide it from him, because eventually he will find out and it will make the situation worse. What would happen if u didn't tell him, and then in a couple of years the baby needed blood from both of u and he wasn't the match. What would u do then? It would definatley be too late to say sorry.
2006-09-28 09:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by omarion's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, think of the future, will it be harder to tell him after the baby is born, or before. Does his cousin all ready know? At least if you told him before the baby came into the world, he would have a choice to be involved and not get emotionally attached to the child-then get let down. no matter what you do, he will get hurt because he's all ready believed it was his through the whole pregnancy.
2006-09-28 05:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep my mouth shut and pray that he didnt notice anything. But the right thing to do would be to tell him the truth. If you think hes the psycho type than have a friend or sister or someone there because you dont want him to flip out and try and hurt you or your baby. Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-28 12:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Live.Laugh.Love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well are you sure that there isn't a possibility of this baby being his. you need to tell him and you should have told him about this a while ago. he might stay and he might leave you either way he deserves to know what you did. i also think that you should get a paternity test done after the baby is born just to be sure. i hope that you will have learned from the mistake that you made and i wish you the best of luck however the turnout maybe.
2006-09-28 05:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by beautiful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you sure it's the cousins baby? How are you so sure that it is not your boyfriends baby? Well unless you had protected sex with him I guess. I guess you will be going on the Maury show and telling him there and finding out who's you babies daddy is.
2006-09-28 05:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with everyone involved, not just for your own selfish sake, or the men's, but for the child's. Eventually the child needs to know who his father really is, and that father needs to be given the chance to be a dad. Either be completely honest before this child is born, or prepare yourself for a world of drama here in a few years, drama that will continue from the day it starts until the day you die. I can promise you that you'll never be completely forgiven by everyone involved.
2006-09-28 05:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell him he may be mad and never talk to you again or he may except it and love you anyway..but it will cause problems between him and his cousin and if you keep it a secret thats not good what if the baby needs blood or and organ he will find out it isnt his...and why didnt you tell him when you first found out you were pregnant...you got your self in a big miss
2006-09-28 05:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋