I have a boyfiend how I've been with for 3 1/3 years and I just found out that he cheated on me with I don't know how many girls. But the fuuny thing is that he didn't have enough ball to tell me before I got pregnant so now I'am in a major situation I really don't know what to do because we have a beatiful baby girl. Like I said I'm not sure what to do now. I just want to see what people think and say about my problem. Should I just forgive him and keep living with him or should I just pack and leave with our baby????
2006-09-28 05:24:12 · 39 answers · asked by Rashelle S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just because you have a baby with him doesn't mean you have to actually be in a relationship with him, you with always have some ties to him through the child but its best to let the relationship go if he cheated once he will most likely do it again, and if you stay you will always live in the fear that while he is away that he is cheating or wonder when it will happen again, leave the relationship, get support from your family and friends and collect child support no matter what he still has an obligation to support the child, good luck....
2006-09-28 05:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw man this is hard but you should leave because you will never trust him again.. you also have some else to think about now your daughter she came in to this world not asking for this drama.. and there will be Drama, she needs a steady environment and he won't provide that for her cause he is cheating you will, be so caught up on him that you wouldn't have time for your baby, If he really loved you he would have never cheated, and if he did it once he will do it again and even if he don't do it again it's always gonna be in the back of your mind I wonder if he is cheating on me???? you and your wonderful baby don't need this..... It will hurt you even more when you forgive him and he does it again and your daughter will see you even more unhappy.... so you take your Baby and go raise her on your own and be happy together....... He is not worth a second chance..... but give your self a second chance to make a good life for you and your little girl...... I wish you all the best!!!!
2006-09-28 05:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by tee k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, if he cheated once, he'll cheat forever. Not saying that goes for all men, but for a lot of them. Your boyfriend could still come over and visit the baby whenever he wanted to...you need to think about yourself right now. Do you really wanna live with someone who is cheating behind your back at times when you never suspect it? If you want to stay behind for your little girl then that is your choice, i just think that if you want to get out, you should do it now while she is young. After that she'll be dependent on her father and it will be too late to make an escape. Best of luck to both you and your little girl.
2006-09-28 05:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Snap Skittles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do you love him? Is he really sorry? My definition of "sorry" is "Don't tell me your sorry unless you are NEVER going to do it again, otherwise your not truly sorry"...and I teach my kids this. Unfortunately, the only way you can tell if he isn't going to cheat again is if you stay with him. My ex husband cheated on me all the time and I gave him chance after chance, and these were just the ones I knew about, because I loved him and we had a baby together. Only you know when your ready to leave and no one else can tell you when your ready. Some women get cheated on once and leave, others 10 times, and some just never leave. It's really what you think you can handle is what you should do. Good luck.
2006-09-28 06:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of him as soon as I found out he is cheating. I would take the baby and get the holy crap out of there before something bad happens.
Don't forgive this sucker, he is no good for you and your baby. I think you should, get him for child support and limit his visitation because of the safety of your daughter. You can't trust him to take care of you, so how could you trust him alone with your daughter. The major pain in the behind has caused you alot of hurt and you won't be able to recover from this. You can't stay with someone who can not be trusted again.
The most important issue here is providing your daughter with love and a secure home. Forget the jerk because he'll lie and cheat again. Wish you the best and good luck.
2006-09-28 05:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think and prepare yourself on what to do AFTER the shock wears off, and you know that will take time. Its going to be hard and your emotions will try to get the better of you , but be smart. If you choose to leave him, begin the child support arrangements now and let him know you are not ever going to take him back no matter how sorry he is. If you do decide to stay, work on your forgiveness before your baby gets older. you don't want to still be fighting over this five years form now with the kids looking on.
Hope this helps, good luck.
2006-09-28 05:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by jenn j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's still your boyfriend after living with you and having a child.....get out now! Guys who cheat on pregnant girlfriends are the lowest....and I'm a guy. Don't believe me? Look up the definition of scumbag, or read Kevin Federline's bio. He may be a dad, but he's not interested in being a parent. Lock him into child support and find someone who will help you raise your daughter and make you happy.
2006-09-28 05:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good Lord is not going to give you anything that you can't handle. If you are comfortable living in a situation with a man you can't trust and who cheats on you on a consistant basis, stay. If you want to raise your daughter with good moral values and get yourself out of an unhealthy environment, then leave. The choice is yours. It's just a matter of what you think that you are comfortable doing. Just remember one thing, if he loved you in the first place, he wouldn't have cheated on you. Good Luck.
2006-09-28 05:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I'm so sorry for what your going through. This one is something you will have to figure out depending on what your willing to take. You can stay with him for the daughter of your the kind of person who can put all of that aside, or you can seperate and start a new life without him and hopefully work out a solid plan for your daughter. Personally I like the second choice better but like I said, this one depends on what you feel is right for your daughter in the long haul. Good luck =)
2006-09-28 05:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that is a big problem too, but It can be solve easily. Why you need others kaypo mouth? What if people says" dump both of them and go? Can you do it?" the answer is NO, right?
My view is, if both of you still love each other then forgive and forget. If not than move on, don't let adult affairs affect the youngs. Life is short enough, don't shorten it!
2006-09-28 05:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by highdesire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋